My supervisor didn't show at work party

[Shehurtme]

I had left my job of over 3 years just recently, but before I left, my supervisor said I'm still invited to work party. She was also planning on attending. A couple days ago, she texted me the address. Party was today and when I showed up, my coworkers were there. We all talked and had fun.

I was just about to ask when my supervisor would show up. Then someone said stuff suddenly came up that HER supervisor wanted her to do. She emailed everybody a few days ago saying she won't be there. However, I don't have that email no more since I no longer work there.

I continued to be outgoing and friendly. However, I suffered greatly on the inside, so I took advantage of the alcohol provided. I had a long day at work today and looked forward to seeing her. I haven't seen her in a month. I can't sleep. I know I got along very well at that party but I'm greatly disappointed that my supervisor didn't show. HOw do I deal with this crushing disappointment?

[Snow White.]

I guess first you could think about why you're so disappointed? What were you hoping to come from seeing her?

[Shehurtme]

Haven't you ever looked forward to seeing a friend you haven't seen in a while? If the person didn't show, you'd be as much a wreck as I am.

[Iamcatbug]

Have you thought about asking to meet up with her? Things happen sometimes which means that they may not be able to make things they have committed to. Yes it is upsetting but that is life.

I've had friends cancel on plans we've had for months before but it's never made made me as upset as you appear to be.

Don't get me wrong I totally get that you value friendships, but I wonder if you are expecting too much from relationships?

[Snow White.]

Yes I have, my question goes deeper into "why" you were looking forward to seeing them.

In any case last time I did, it passed probably a day after. So hopefully it passes for you.

[Shehurtme]

I looked forward to seeing her bc we get along really good. Plus, we go back ovr 3 years. I'm Afraid to tell her that I wish she was there bc it would make her feel bad. I don't wanna guilt her bc she hasn't done anything wrong. Still, I hardly ever left my room unless it is to work at my new job. Boy did I **** that up today.

[Serendipity.]

Do you ever socialize with her outside of work? You wouldn't have to guilt her or even say how bad you felt that she didn't come. Something like "hey, sorry you couldn't make it to the party, would you like to meet up some time?" would work.

[Snow White.]

^ that's a good idea :)

[Shehurtme]

Yeah I haven't thought of that lol