Not been on the site for ages but felt compelled tonight to post as I'm starting to slip, I think 😕
I have been struggling to deal with a number of things such as starting therepy for the first time, getting over major surgery and other things but mostly I have been in extreme pain since my surgery that the doctors don't seem to want to resolve for me right now but what really has tipped it today is that today I'm having to deal with a really difficult anniversary and I am now not sure what I should do...
I don't want to feel any pain anymore, both physical or mental and my head is in a really negative space and I have been trying not to let myself get too low. I feel that I have no alternatives left to try and I don't know who to turn to
I went to the hospital where I had surgery today to have a dressing change but unfortunately the dressing clinic nurse could only give me more of the same pain medication as I have already got which inst working!!!�� she did make an appointment to see my surgeon next week to see what he can do! I feel like I cannot trust doctors anymore and would just love the pain to go for a while, it would certainly make me feel better and I might be able to deal with all the other stuff a little better , thanks for the reply it's nice to think that there are people out there that care
*big hugs*
is there anything that helps reduce the pain like putting a hot water bottle on it or massaging it slowly or something? i would suggest a nice bath but you said its got a dressing on so im assuming you cant get it wet.
am here if you need to talk
I struggle with chronic pain myself, so understand being in pain and wanting it to stop, as well as mental anguish/suffering.
It is a very bad combination, struggling with both mental and physical pain, because you feel you are battling two separate wars, which makes things ten times worse.
Are you able to use any techniques to help you with the mental side of things? Relaxation, distraction, mindfulness, etc?
In terms of physical pain - can you go to your doctor and ask for either a change of painkillers, or increasing the dosage?
There are some therapies that can help with physical pain, like acupuncture, herbal remedies, as above said, water bottle, resting, not over doing it, pacing yourself, etc.
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time of it, but please don't give up hope, keep fighting, you can do this.
Hi everyone
Meek the pain isn't any better so I'm just trying to get by as best I can! Firefly has been awesome and tbh so has my CC but I've only had one session with the therepist which was also attended by my CC and will be like that for the next two sessions so that we can get to know each other as I'm not too great with change. In terms of how I'm trying to cope with the pain it is difficult as I don't know mindfulness and anything which involves heat is an issue so I am just using distraction most of the time (pacing probably isn't the best thing to be doing but that's all I seem to be doing or cleaning or getting other things done!!) My CC and therapist know what going on an I won't see them both for two weeks but I'm not that comfortable with my therapist right now and if I'm honest only spoke in the last session as I needed to speak to my CC and that was the only way but I am trying not to self medicate and trying to do the right thing but this is exhausting and sleeping is hell right now but thank you for all your support girls and guys it just proves that online communities can work and I glad I have this outlet thanks for the sparkles too!!!
I know change is hard but maybe give this therapist a chance and embrace it. It's good Charlotte will be there for the first couple of sessions. You've waited long enough for it to happen. Especially as Dr Bains didn't work out.
Just be honest. Can you print what you've written and show Charlotte when you see her what's going on for you before it gets really bad and you implode?
We're going to see the surgeon tomorrow; so keep going until then and let's see what he has to say. You're doing so well and I'm proud at how much you're trying with everything.
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I don't want things to get even worse but I'm clutching at anything right now so that I dont go backwards but it's difficult to see the positives and the only way I can keep myself safe right now into hide my medication. All I can do is pace and try to think of better things but my head is full of bad stuff it is really scaring me as I know I have the potential to act on them.Lets see what the surgeon says tomorrow and go from there but if it doesn't go well I've reached my limit and I feel that my head will eventually take over
