unable to have kids

[~SuNsHiNe~]

My boyfriend is unable to have kids (he has 2 with his exwife but it is HIGHLY unlikely he will be able to have anymore) and I love him and our relationship and I am trying SO hard to be ok with it but I have always wanted kids and I dont know if wanting to be ok with it is enough to make me ok with it. Help or hugs much appreciated

[The Worst Witch]

Just because he can't have kids naturally, doesn't mean you can't have kids with him, if thats what you both want.

[~SuNsHiNe~]

He's done all the tests and its unlikely that even with IVF it would work. His other two were through IVF (well ICSI which is a form used when its even more difficult) and that was a whole back and its degenerative. I know there's other options but apparently its really hard to adopt

[EyelinerAndCigarettes]

Adoption is a long process but it is possible, as is fostering.

Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel?

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[Amaranth]

You could try sperm donation?

[Animad]

As mentioned above, sperm donation is potentially the best option if you naturally want a child. He won't be it's biological father but he can be the father in every other sense of the word

[Bellatrix]

leaving some love as I have no advice but know this is hard <3

[KneeSocks]

Have ya'll talking about your other options? Adoption or sperm donation? You should probably sit and talk with him about it and weight your options and try to find the best one for ya'll.

[~SuNsHiNe~]

Thanks for all your support. We've talked about it and are very open about it and I know I don't have to have all the answers now but I'm still having difficulty with it...but I know its a process

[High_Voltage]

I am also unable to have kids, though I don't feel as strongly about having them as you do I suppose. But what the others have said is right, I would look into sperm donation, though it's expensive it's worth it if you'd like to go through the process of being pregnant and child birth, and adoption is a great option aswell, there are too many kids out there without a proper family, if I ever wanted children myself I would go that route personally, but it all depends on what you want. So it's good that you're talking to your boyfriend about it but I wouldn't leave him over it though above all it's you're decision. If you can't find an option that you both agree on that makes you happy, then you have to do what makes you happy.

[mat]

well my girl was molested younger.

and stuff with me.


but basically weve been told basically we couldnt have kids.

but were about to launch the second kid out on valentines day.

i dont trust anyone anymore.

[~SuNsHiNe~]

I'm trying hard not to let it get to me and to think about it too much but I keep feeling hurt and upset by it..its like I can only hold it in for so long