Feeling betrayed by my own mother.....

[NewBeginning84]

Hi all

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you all. I have not had a Happy New Year from today, as I found out from grandma that my own mother gave away all of my rabbit accessories which would cost £45.50 and the rabbit run which would have also cost £10.00 second hand, whilst selling my x2 second hand two tier hutches without my permission!!

She keeps on trying to pass the buck saying “I said go ahead” but I said to her “Only sell my x2 second hand two tier hutches and run” not “give away stuff!!”. Then she tries to make me feel like the bad guy when confronting her and kept on saying “But when I visit you it costs me £10.00 in petrol, I helped you decorate your new flat and we should not upset grandma!?”

But why should I care as she owes me £55.50 altogether as she technically stole my items worth a lot of money that she gave away. My mother also promised to pay me £30 for my second hand TV Stand which she has taken away and not paid me for. I have disowned her as I said to her that I do not want to be in company with a common thief.

Then mother said “Good luck for the future and leave grandma alone?” even though I have not done anything wrong but I have known mother to be a very manipulative person when she wants to be to get her own way. I tried to make her feel bad by saying “You made the mistake as you did not get permission from me to give away my, rabbit accessories which would cost £45.50 and the rabbit run which would have also cost £10.00 second hand. So cough up as that would be the decent, respectful and chivalrous thing to do”.

But of course the common thief has not replied as she is heartless. Would you still want to be in touch with a common thief who is your mother and would you report her to the Police as she technically stole from me?

Kind Regards,


Oliver

[Iamcatbug]

I think you need to let it go. It would be very hard to prove that they have stolen off you. Although it does sound like there was a miscommunication over the rabbit things.

[ajrocks]

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Originally Posted by Iamcatbug

I think you need to let it go. It would be very hard to prove that they have stolen off you. Although it does sound like there was a miscommunication over the rabbit things.

^ I think the same here.you're not going to be able to prove it annoying as it is.

[talaiporia]

Who paid for them originally and were they kept at your home or her home? I would suggest that although it doesn't seem fair, and it's very frustrating, it's worth considering everything that she has bought over the years (kids are expensive!), and considering this in perspective as an isolated incident.

[NewBeginning84]

Hi talaiporia

I paid for the rabbit accessories and the run out of my benefit money as I was then and now unemployable because of the government refusing to educate me! That is why it is eating up inside of me as I earned that money by saving it up and then my mother gives away my rabbit accessories and run which obviously cost me more than £55.50 without my permission.

There was no miscommunication as I told her to “Leave MY cupboard alone and I WILL deal with what is inside!!”. The rabbit accessories, run and hutches were kept at my old home as I lived with my grandparents for 15 years, then last September 22nd I was given a Council flat which I waited for 2 years for.

Unfortunately this is not an isolated incident as she has gone behind my back several times before selling my other items which were precious to me when I was a child. I personally think she is sick in the head and gets enjoyment out of seeing me upset, by ripping me off as she has admitted that since she moved to Exeter from Norwich she has been unhappy from the age of 12 years old and now she is 67 years old.

So I recon she is purposely trying to make me feel the same way, as in her head she probably says “If I cannot be happy in the South West, my sons cannot be either and I will make sure of that”. I really do feel betrayed by her and sick to the stomach. They do say you cannot chose your family, how right they were!!

[ajrocks]

Has she got any other items of yours at the moment? Have you got room to keep it at yours as I would suggest getting anything else that is yours and either storing it at yours or elsewhere so that it doesn't happen again thats all I can suggest really.