Going on holiday.

[Steel Maiden]

I am going to Jersey for three days over Christmas with my mum.

My mum is ok and very tolerant now. She has been off the alcohol for a year and the difference is obvious. She isn't horrid like she used to be. But when we are on holiday I will have to watch her alcohol intake. Half pint (or a pint? I don't know much about alcohol) of cider in the evening and that's it, no wine as that makes her crazy.

My question is how do I survive on the holiday?

I don't like holidays. If I could stay at home and never go on holiday for three years I'd be happy.

How do I cope with Gatwick Airport? Last time I went to an aiport and on a plane I needed special assistance. I won't get that this time. I'm scared I'll have a meltdown and get arrested (I've nearly got into trouble with customs before because they wanted to search me - I went off in the metal detector - and I flipped out when they put their hands on me).

How do I cope with lack of routine, limited allowance to carry out my rituals, a new place I've never been to etc.

I will be taking some sensory stuff but as I will have a small luggage I cannot fit my huge dressing gown that I do deep pressure with. I will need deep pressure at some point but my mum is not very good at squeezing me tight.

My OCD will go nuts as well.

My mum and I agreed minimal sensory stimulation as far as possible, and apparently Jersey is a quiet place.

Psych said take 0.5mg clonazepam twice a day while I am there to keep me calm, and extra olanzapine if I need it.

I want my mum to enjoy herself. Her life has been pretty crap recently and I haven't spent six Christmases in a row with her so I want to make it worthwhile for her.

But at the same time I don't want to have yet another situation where I come home from holiday and get sectioned.

Advice please.

[consequential]

You posted in the serious forum and why did you move to here? You said your mother was abusive and unbearable. Do you think it's a good idea you going there. I am trying to understand you but this post is completely the opposite to the other one and here you are saying your mother deserves a holiday while before you said she was making you pay for it. Like is she manipulating you to the point where you are confused and maybe will end up worse after.

[CaiteeBug]

Musical, perhaps you should read Oly's other thread regarding going on Holiday. Oly has said in another thread that her mom has been sober for a year now and is more tolerant.

[consequential]

Yeah and she said that her mother made her end up being sectioned before. I don't trust people with drink problems at all. And who paid for the holiday? she didn't sound too tolerant looking for cash.

[CaiteeBug]

I'm sorry for hijacking your thread Oly. Anyway, Does your mom have anything planned for you and she to do while in Jersey? What kind of routine would you like to have while there?

[Steel Maiden]

My mum has been off the alcohol for a year now. She probably has some degree of mild brain damage from the long-term alcoholism, but she is not what she used to be.

Besides she hasn't spent six Christmases with me in a row.

And anyway she booked it on a no-returns basis and she has nobody else to go with.

My mum said that we would walk along the seafront on the first day and that it would be a relaxed situation.

She said we have breakfast and dinner at the hotel (half-board) and she agreed that we will try to go there at the same time each day.

It's only 24th Dec - 27th Dec (27th Dec we are leaving early in the morning).

I am quite anxious about it but I really do like seafronts and living in London I don't get much of that at all.

My support worker is going to phone my mum this week and have a talk with her.

[consequential]

Hope it goes well. My sister is an alcoholic so I feel strongly about these things. Sorry for being nosy. I would be worried she might turn on you but a year is quite long I suppose to be sober.

[Steel Maiden]

No worries. I think it will be ok, thanks.