getting over an addiction<\3

yolo · 06-12-2014, 06:12 PM

I have a major crush on a guy and have had it since 2011 when it started. I have a past with him and memories. We were never really true friends at all we just talked here and their. I dont want to move on but then I do want to move on. How can I stop feeling in love this guy that doesn't love me back? I know I cant stop overnight or anytime soon but how can I start to decrease it and go down the path of not liking this guy sooo much? I have old pictures and texts from this guy and some recent things too and I dont want to delete them or block his number. How can I let go of past? Im stuck please help!

Aardbei · 06-12-2014, 06:40 PM

I know you don't want to delete them or block his number, but you're never going to stop feeling for him unless you reduce/cut off contact and create distance. It really sucks and it's hard because it won't be what you want to do, but after a while of not talking to him it will get easier and you'll start to think clearer.

Could you possibly get a friend to delete his texts/number for you so you can get a fresh start?

yolo · 06-12-2014, 06:51 PM

What else can I do because recently I texted him because I was tempted and I just did. What can I do avoid that and control myself?

talaiporia · 06-12-2014, 09:30 PM

Could you delete his number so you can't text him any more?

Aardbei · 06-12-2014, 10:38 PM

You need to remove the temptation and delete his number.

Patent Pending · 06-12-2014, 11:47 PM

Hi there,

I can only agree with the above, the only way to stop yourself doing things like that is to remove the temptation and delete his number. I eased myself in it when I broke up with my ex; I deleted his number out my phone but had it written down. Then as I was getting over him more and more, I threw the piece of paper away.

At the end of the day, if this person doesn't feel the same way about you, contacting him and depressing yourself isn't going to change his mind. You deserve someone who will give you the time and love you can reciprocate. Clinging onto old photos and texts is only dragging out your misery. You deserve better than that.

x x x

yolo · 07-12-2014, 04:26 AM

Deleting his number wont make much of a difference in my opinion or stop my temptation because I memorize it in my head. What else can I do?

Unbreakable. · 08-12-2014, 04:30 AM

If it won't make much of a difference then why do you refuse to delete it?

It sounds like you're not willing to let go of this and noone can make you feel okay about it. If you're serious about this you need to do it even when it will make you feel bad initially. It takes time for the feelings to go away.

yolo · 08-12-2014, 04:57 AM

What else can I do besides delete his number? I still have memories and feelings inside of me. How can I decrease these to not feel sad and depressed????

Unbreakable. · 08-12-2014, 08:36 AM

Give it some time.

If you decrease contact you will get some emotional distance after a while too.
Try to distract yourself from him. Do stuff with other people, enioy yourself and feel good about yourself.

The reason why people keep saying you need to delete his number, texts etc is because distancing yourself is the only thing that really works. You can't make feelings go away just like that, especially not over night. There's no off switch for feelings.