Anxiety about relationship

PeachyK · 01-12-2014, 11:09 PM

So... I don't know how to start this.

I've been with this guy for a short time, but things were getting serious. We got in a huge fight and I feel like he's not gonna be there for me when it comes to my emotional issues (which he really doesnt know much about). It's made me really insecure about our relationship because since then we haven't talked much, and when we do it just doesn't feel the same. I've discussed this with him and he promises he would tell me if feelings ever changed and that he's serious and all that. Yet he's off tomorrow and saturday from work and won't come out here to see me.

ANYWAY, so since we fought saturday/sunday, everytime I think about his daughter I get this wave of anxiety/jealousy. Have no idea where the anxiety comes in from. But I get so jealous when I see pictures or hear about her... She's only 7 months old. I guess I've been jealous because I know I'm in love with him. It's probably way too soon, but I just know he's the one. Too long to get into, but I know. I've told him how I feel. He's holding back on those words and will just say he has "strong feelings" and such.

I guess I'm jealous cause his daughter reminds me of how he loved his ex and I wish he'd love me like that.. not necessarily have a child together (at least not in the near future).. but just to have those feelings for me. My stomach literally ties up in knots and I feel sick just thinking about it..

What should I do about this? Should I leave him? He's been distant anyway... but I don't want to give up just yet. I don't know. The fighting has me in a very insecure state about our relationship right now. Maybe I'm just blowing it out of proportion and looking for something that isn't there.

Any advice would be helpful.. thanks :)

-broken winged angel- · 03-12-2014, 05:19 PM

Maybe he isn't completely over his ex? But I think it's up to you if you wanna work through it. Is it worth it to you? Do you think you two can fix it? I say think long and hard about your decision. Don't do something you regret. I'm sorry I don't have much advise to give. But just try to give him his space for now and see if that helps

PeachyK · 04-12-2014, 07:11 AM

Thank you! I appreciate that... I'm trying to give it the best shot and really try everything I can.. That way if we do go our seperate ways I don't feel like there was something else I "could have done". He's worth it to me.. I think honestly we are TOO much alike. I'm a very independant opinonated person. And so is he. So we end up being assholes to eachother rather if we were having the same discussion with someone more passive, it wouldn't turn into an argument. But we get over it quickly. I just hate knowing someone is mad at me.. I hate that feeling. I don't know. I guess I just gotta live and learn.