Need advice

[Jackiec]

One of my biggest problems is that I don't like to talk about my depression or my situation, because every time I think about it I just start thinking that there are so many people in worse situations, and I'm being selfish and just need to be grateful and stop complaining. But that doesn't stop me from getting sad and then I just feel weak and even more upset and it gets worse. Does anyone have any advice?

[jiri057]

You depression is there to protect you, much like physical pain. It tells you something is wrong, only you know what it is but sometimes it is not apparent. Try changing your lifestyle, break out of your pattern, you will have more clear view.

[Jackiec]

Thank you, that helps

[Patent Pending]

Hi there,

Sorry to hear you're suffering with depression at the moment. It is very difficult to live with.

I often think I shouldn't be depressed because there are worse problems out there, however that's making what I'm feeling invalid which never helps. It's worth remembering the quote; "Telling someone they can't be unhappy because others have it worse is like telling someone they can't be happy because others have it better"

x x x

[Emmelberry]

this used to be a huge issue for me, but i would never think anyone else was a bad person for being in pain. i'm hugely grateful for everything i have and always have been but that isn't a cure.
i found this quote from Hamlet, as pretentious as that may seem, to be on the spot "O God, I could be bounded in a nutshell and count myself a king of infinite space, were it not that I have bad dreams." so environment and mental state can be very independent. there are happy people in poverty, who have experienced great loss or are in a huge amount of pain. of course the opposite applies.

i thought it was also put hilariously accurately and maybe slightly less eloquently as "“you shouldn’t be depressed, people have it worse than you”
finally, after years of searching, the person with the worst life ever is found. formally, they are granted permission to be sad. but only them. only they have earned it. no sads for anyone else at all ever"

if you could wish your way out of depression you would have. feelings are valid and you should let yourself feel them.