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[nickh43]

well i am a single dad and been on my own for 9years and i have had my kids with me and i am finding it very hard to find any one to be with me

[The Worst Witch]

So what is your mh problem you need help with?

[Iamcatbug]

May I ask what exactly you are finding difficult in dating? Is it that you have no time to date or that people get wary of the fact you have children?

[nickh43]

well it is that people are wary that i have kids and that they will not take the chance to find out what i like

[nickh43]

i have tried internet dating and tried meeting people but as soon as they know i have kids they just disappear and i don't hear from them again i have only met two people in all this time but they was not interested

[Iamcatbug]

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know whatto suggest really as I fail at the dating aspect of life too. So you aren't alone with that at all. Sorry I couldn't help any more.

[Amaranth]

Don't lose hope, I know a number of single dads who have found new partners and are now in happy strong relationships or marriages.

[-Asphyxia-]

How old are you?

I only ask because when I was younger, I was always hesitant to date men with children because I didn't feel capable and/or didn't want to be a child's pseudo mom. I've always dated older men, and I am 29 now, 30 in April. As I've gotten older, I realize that there will be more men in the dating pool who probably will have kids, and I've learned to accept that.

I mean, if you're a loving dad and taking care of your kids, women will (well, should) have utmost respect for you, appreciate that, and want to get to know you. My only advice is would be to (of course) be honest about having kids right off the bat, but wait awhile before you introduce your children to your partner. I think introductions that are too soon could confuse them.

Anyway, you will find someone eventually. (I don't have much luck dating either, if it makes you feel any better.) Take care, and I hope I could be of some help.