Miles away fom her..

StephenDay1998 · 12-11-2014, 01:02 AM

This has been bugging me a whole lot lately...My girlfriend is many miles away from me, I live in Scotland, she lives in Slovakia, the distance really has me down lately and....well, its making me very depressed...keep in mind that im 16 and not able to travel on my own...so I need advice on coping with this distance and not being depressed because of it...

Patent Pending · 12-11-2014, 11:49 AM

Hi there,

Long distance relationships can be really tough, particularly at your age when you're unable to travel to see the other person easily, so it's understandable that it'll be playing on your mind.

Do you two have any photos or memories you've shared? It might help to make a collage or scrapbook if you do so you can look at it when you're feeling low.

Would it also help to plan out when you will next get to see each other? Even if it's not all sorted, or even if it doesn't happen when you say it will, it might help to give you something to look forward to.

x x x

JusC · 12-11-2014, 01:14 PM

This must be hard for u having to be away from ur gf for so long but u need to ask urself if this is what u want right now? You mentioned feeling low and not being able to live without her but what about how ur feeling?

I think u need some time to think things through and see whats for the best. I'm happy that u have someone u really do care about and she does two buy maybe she's thinking what ur thinking as well. Have u thought about talking to her over the internet like Skype? Maybe communicating now and again on there might make a difference but if u feel that u still can't live without her when she's not here then u need ask wether this relationship will go the distance.

Try and be open and honest with her and tell het how u feel. Once u do that she will know how u been feeling all this time and will start opening up to u two. It's a shame she doesn't live any closer. If u both lived in the same country but in different parts then that wouldn't a problem but just think if the long distance relationship will work in the end.

I know u will still have her in ur life abd will always love her and she will two and maybe u would get back with her in the future if it don't work out now and move over there with her or something. You still got all ur life to know best.

Good Luck.

StephenDay1998 · 13-11-2014, 01:16 AM

Me and my girlfriend talked...I plan to visit her in the summer next year, although I have to ask my parents first...now, however though, I am now worried about her...she told me she was crying...she didn't say why and she stopped responding after that...

JusC · 13-11-2014, 10:35 PM

Ok. I'm glad u plucked up the courage to talk to her. However, what do u think ur parents will say about u going half the across the world on ur own? Remember that ur still there little boy and don't want u to be unsafe.

I think u should think this through before u come to any rash choices. If ur parents disagree then u need to look at it like they are being protective and don't want u to go without knowing it's dangerous out there being on ur own.

Please think about this as summer from now is a long way away. I know u will be an adult by then but u will still need permission from ur parents to go as u have just turned eightee. I do think ur age does play a part in it. What have they said about this girl ur seeing? What do they think of her?

I dont know what ur gf has to say for herself but maybe she is feeling the same way u do by asking wether or not u two have a future. I see u two like each other alot but the problem is the distance. How did u two meet by the way?

What is it ur gf wants to tell u? Try and not think the worse. It could be anything she wants to tell u in private. You wont know unless u ask her. Could u talk to her over internet again and ask or if not then leave it and wait to see what happens. Whatever the reason why she wants to talk to u please dont think that it's anything to do with u or how u and her are at the moment. I'm only saying to let u know.

Talk Soon

JusC · 14-11-2014, 10:24 PM

What do u think of the advice I mentioned?

I'm here if u wanna talk :)

StephenDay1998 · 16-11-2014, 01:48 AM

Thanks for the advice, I don't really know how to tell my parents about this, or, infact, that im dating someone, they don't know about her at all. I just don't have the courage to tell them.

Me and my girlfriend met on the internet, and we've been dating for two months.we've already planned to meet each other.

It turns out she cried because of the distance between us, which is why I cry sometimes...

We do talk daily though, which is good.

JusC · 16-11-2014, 12:54 PM

You need to tell them at some point. They have the right to know wether or not the long distance relationship is any good. I can understand why u dont wanna tell them but they are gonna find out sooner rather then later.

Even if they arnt keen on the idea atleast u told them and dont have to hide no more but u dont wanna talk out with them cuz of it. They may just ask u a few questions about her to know its no other person pretending to be a young girl. You need to be careful when u meet someone online, u dont know how they are gonna be like. Have u spoken to her on Skype? Do u know what she looks like in person?

You would think meeting each other two months ago would of got u to tell ur mum and dad but i cant talk cuz i didnt tell my mum and havent told my dad about my new bf so again i know where ur coming from. Its best to tell one of them first and then later tell the other. If ur better at talking to ur mum then go to her first or if ur better talking to ur dad then go to him instead.

You have to at some point tell them. Even if its just ur mum or ur dad to begin with. Try not to think the worse, they may be a bit shocked cuz u didnt tell them at the start but Im sure they wont go mad. Do u have any brothers or sisters? You could go to them first and then tell ur mum and dad after.

So ur gf ended up telling u it was the distance thing. I see How its had a impact on u both. Its à shame really that she dont live in the UK where u could go visit her now and again knowing she lives in UK. Its a bit far for u to go to see her and will she come here to see u? Sometimes long distance relationships can work but it depends if u would put alot of effort into that relationships and make time for each other. You see se celebrites what have long distance relationship and it does work for them. The only problem is i know they have other commitments but i know with u it would be different. I do understand completely cuz i know.

You talk all time? Is that skype? Atleast ur still in contact with each other. I would start thinking about ur relationship and see if u can see a future together but its good to atleast tell either ur mum or dad.

Good Luck

StephenDay1998 · 17-11-2014, 03:33 AM

Yeah, I know that this girl is real...I have seen her and this is completely unrelated...but she's pretty...and we use Skype to talk with each other...

I have no brothers or sisters, sadly...I wish I did...