Do BPD people post excessively and jump from one topic to another?
I meet with coffee regularly with a bunch of people who have various mh problems. One has BPD and is a friend on facebook.
She posts half a dozen posts or more at once on facebook, usually (but no always) sharing pictures of stuff that I am not interested in. It's becoming a pain to scroll through tons of pictures to get to what other people say. I dont really want to unfriend her because when she is not posting pics she has rather interesting things to say.
IRL when she talks she jumps from one topic to another quickly. She cant seem to wait for others to finish their turn in the conversation and interupts. She talks quickly so much so that I have trouble understanding her and as consequence she accuses me of having flashbacks. It's not that I have them, it's just that it's hard with the voices that I cant keep up.
I always assumed she was bipolar until she told us that she had BPD. I am trying to understand BPD so I am not sure if it is just her or these aspects of her personality are BPD related. Can anyone with BPD help?
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I have BPD and hardly ever post on FB or talk much with friends. I prefer them to talk generally, so I wouldn't personallly associate those quirks with BPD.
That said, whilst those things aren't necessarily typical of BPD they might be linked with her personal experience of the world and her mental health. It sounds like she might be trying to understand/express hwr identity.
Last edited by whirlpools : 25-10-2014 at 06:23 PM.
Thanks whirlpools. I need educating on BPD hence my questions. I can understand nearly all mh disorders, but I need to know more on BPD.
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I Have BPD and I skip topics like no-ones buisness , for example I can be having tea with my Best Friend and can go from "How are you?" , "Where did you get that?" " Look a pigeon!" and I'm concious I'm doing this but don't have the control over it . I don't really do it online though , only with people I'm comfy with in person.
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I don't really do it online though , only with people I'm comfy with in person.
She doesnt do it online either, just irl. It annoys me sometimes though.
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I have BPD and personally this is not a trait I have. I am quite focused and reserved, and let other people take the lead in terms of topics of conversation. I wouldn't attribute it to BPD per se. Lots of people post hundreds of pictures to the internet, and it could be the majority of her friends are similar whereas you do find it dull (I am not on social networking sites for that exact reason!). It sounds like she is quite harsh in terms of you not keeping up with her though, and it might be worth telling her that you would appreciate a little more patience and understanding.
I have BPD and I don't think I really do this a lot, but perhaps sometimes, but I wouldn't say it's because of BPD.
When speaking about Facebook and her posts, you can choose what you want to see from her. If you click the arrow in the top right of the post of one of her pictures it'll give you options of hiding pictures/posts or all of her stuff.
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I have BPD, and I know a lot of people with BPD, and some do those things that you mentioned and some don't. A few people I know are hard to have a conversation with because of how much they jump from one topic to the next, so it's hard to keep up. They also post a lot on facebook, with statuses, quotes, pictures, other shared images, videos from youtube, etc.
But personally, I don't post on facebook much, and when I do I like to keep it positive, and not share with people when I'm struggling. When having a conversation I like to think about what the other person is saying and digest it and comment on that so a natural flow of conversation is maintained.
I don't think I post excessively on facebook ever. A couple of people have told me I can be weird to talk to (:P) for similar reasons as your friend, but only ever when my mood is 'up' - usually I am on the quiet side and don't have any problem at all with focusing or letting other people talk. So for me, yes, I would say it is BPD-related.
However, if your friend is like that all the time, maybe it is just how she is? I wouldn't say there's anything particularly 'BPD' about it, especially the facebook thing. Lots of 'normal' people I know post a lot of random things. If you don't want to see it, you don't have to. I think for this, as with most things, it probably doesn't make a lot of sense to ask 'do people with BPD...' because 'people with BPD' are individuals with different habits and personality traits, just the same as anyone else.
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Most of my family is like that in conversations.
I wouldn't think it's a bpd thing, but a personality type.
What difference would it make really anyway?
I also don't think it's a BPD-thing, as whilst I know some people with BPD who do such things, I also know people who don't have BPD who do it.
Could you hide her from your newsfeed? That way the pictures wouldn't get in the way of seeing other posts, but you'd still be able to view her profile to see what she'd posted if you wanted.
I agree with Hannah, and also I think there are hundreds of combinations of the diagnostic criteria for BPD so you could get lots of people diagnosed with BPD in the same room and they'd all have different combinations of symptoms. It means really that there isn't really one way that everyone with BPD behaves in.
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