What to do? Question about my son

Kathryn_Anna · 09-09-2014, 05:22 PM

So my son (who is 7) is super sensitive. He fell on the way to school today and was just so distraught and decided he didn't want to go to school. We finally made it there and he was in a little better spirits. He told me just before he walked in to school "Mommy, do you know what would make me really happy today? If you met me for lunch!" It was the most pitiful thing.

Well, hubby and I met him for lunch. As we were leaving he was so upset he was in tears. He said he was so home sick. I felt so bad for him. It made me tear up (luckily he didn't see that!). He also asked me this morning if I could record some of my daughter's PT appointment today.

I just don't know what to do. When he was younger we use to say he "wore his heart on his sleeve" all the time. We never really thought anything of it and that he'd eventually grow out of it. He hasn't. Some days are better than others. Today he's worried about the clouds and it being an ugly day. Yesterday he was perfectly happy with his umbrella and jumping in the puddles on the way to school.

Hubby and I have talked before about having him see someone. It just seems he has a lot going on that kind of concern me. He's a bit of a perfectionist, anxious a lot, hates change, has some sensory issues, and trouble making it to the bathroom in time to go #2. I mean there has to be a way I can help him deal with all of this. Hubby and I have tried but I'm nearing the end of my rope.

I just want my little boy to be happy. That's all

ParanormalChickenGeek · 09-09-2014, 10:21 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this at the moment it must be tough to see your little boy like this, but by the sounds of it you are a loving and supportive parent which is what he definitely needs right now.
Have you thought about going to your GP and requesting a psychiatric assessment for him?

Kathryn_Anna · 09-09-2014, 11:08 PM

I have. His next GP appointment is 11/11. I'm thinking about talking to his GP then. Unfortunately (but fortunately) we are seeing a new GP for my son but the same GP my daughter sees and that we love. Their appointment is together so hopefully we will get some good time with him and get to discuss things. I just don't know what to think. I'm at my wits end, trying to hold it all together and don't feel like I am.

ParanormalChickenGeek · 09-09-2014, 11:16 PM

I'm glad you've booked in to see the GP, let us know how it goes.
It may be an idea to book an appointment for yourself also, it sounds like you're having a difficult time and you need some support yourself.
It sounds like you are doing a great job of caring for your son and the issues he's experiencing are beyond your control so don't beat yourself up about it, you're doing the right thing by seeking help for him, the earlier these things are detected the easier they are to rectify.

Snow White. · 10-09-2014, 11:57 AM

You seem quite stressed about this at the moment, which is understandable because you're not sure what is going on and it seems to be like your son might be upset or anxious. Is it worth attempting to get an earlier appointment to start the processes sooner, and help ease the amount of time you have to be worried also?

charcoal feathers · 10-09-2014, 08:07 PM

Just wondered, have you spoken to his teacher at school about this? How do they find him at school? do they have any concerns with him? If you haven't maybe it would be an idea to ask. Schools have a lot of things in place with being able to do assessments on children.

Sneckie · 13-09-2014, 02:23 PM

I was going to ask if you had spoken to the school as well as there are a whoe team of specialists that can help.

Kathryn_Anna · 14-09-2014, 05:11 PM

He does well in school for the most part. Everyone knows who he is and absolutely adores him. His TA (whom he's had before, and we love. She's amazing with my son!) has said nothing but good things about him when we've asked. We've talked about some stuff a bit before with her. His teachers all love him too and nothing really to say.

I'll talk to his ped and see if it's something we should try talking to the school about. He does really well in school so I don't know. I wish I could get the appointment for him sooner but they won't do it. It HAS to be a year from his last appointment. They won't do anything under those 365 days.

zivalover16 · 15-09-2014, 03:53 AM

He is young to be worrying about all of that (that is not supposed to sound bad). You and your hubby are right about taking him to see someone. It's not something to be scared of it just sounds like he may have anxiety but I can not diagnose him obviously. For now maybe keep a schedule if you can? One so that he knows what to expect if you don't already do so. I am sorry you guys are doing so but I can tell you are loving parents. I may have missed something but I read something about him not being able to see some one until November? My opinion is call them back and say you need to see someone sooner..... good luck

Kathryn_Anna · 16-09-2014, 02:15 AM

Thanks Ziva.

Yeah I may have to try to get him in sooner. I'll just have to take him back for his annual visit in November. I've just got so much going on with other appointments and hubby's business trips that I don't know if I can get hubby to be able to go with me (and he needs to be there!).

For now I'll keep track of the things I notice. Luckily we keep a decent schedule so he knows what to expect and when.

~AngelofLove~ · 12-11-2014, 11:04 PM

How did his appointment go?