It doesn't sound like nothing, and I'm sorry you haven't had any replies to this.
It sounds like a really tough situation, especially if he is unwilling to speak to a doctor. It sounds like his marijuana addiction is contributing to his poor mental health. Do you think he can see that link at all? If he can begin to realise that drugs are only a short term way of coping and actually make things worse in the long run, he might be more motivated to seek help. It might also be worth suggesting alternatives to the GP; for example the Samaritans, local drug support charities and helplines.
I know you won't want him to worry or feel guilty but I do think you should explain how scared and concerned you feel. Perhaps encouraging him to accept benefits might also take some of the pressure off, especially if you do it together as a couple. Aside from that, I guess the key things are to keep communicating honestly with each other and make sure that your relationship is more than mental health. Try and share enjoyable things together, like going to the movies or cooking together each evening. Keeping normality is often really helpful in itself. And, of course, be kind to yourself too and make sure you have something just for you that can help you relax and cope safely with all this. I hope things pick up soon
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