Question for those who have borderline personality disorder

[havealittlefaith]

Why do people with borderline personality disorder try to mess up the good things in there life?

I was recently asked this question and i couldn't didn't have a answer and I would like to see what others have to say x

[Serendipity.]

I don't know. I personally like my good times and I'd do a lot to extend them rather than mess them up (I have BPD).

But I guess reasons might include being 'used' to feeling bad, feeling like you don't deserve the good things. Do you feel like this is an issue for you?

[havealittlefaith]

Thanks guys I don't think set person sees it like that I think there afraid of change and that they may actually do well and enjoy themselves but I guess I can see why cuz the person is used to been put down but I shall read his thread to them x

[Albus Dumbledore]

Personally, I see myself as inherently bad,so I don't feel like I deserve anything good. If things are going well for me, i feel selfish and "bad". I also get paranoid that if I'm happy and things are going well for me, that people I love will suffer. I feel like if I'm suffering, then the people that I love will be okay. obviously I can only speak for myself, but that's how it is for me.

[whirlpools]

My experiencd of sabotage has been the same as others have mentioned here. I was so scared of failing that I didn't even try. Sometimes it's still like that now - I do feel like I deserve things to go well to a degree, but I feel inept in many areas of my life.

When I was younger I was over dependent on services too. I would often not try to get better because I was scared that if contact was reduced, I wouldn't cope and would ultimately die, which is a very scary feeling. Services told me that I would get sick of them before they got sick of me, which eventually turned out to be true.

[asingledaisy]

for me its fear of failure.,.... scary without coping mechanisms in place