I have always found normal counselling/therapy very difficult. I havent really felt a need to talk, id rather keep it to myself. I was too ashamed of what i was experiencing and feeling and often i didnt feel anything at all so when they asked how i felt, i would say i didnt know as i was feeling nothing. (Side effect of my medication, not feeling anything) i often also felt like you, like what could they ever teach me etc.
However id say with time i got more comfortable. It is also a process of learning how to get things said, put words on feelings, trusting etc.
As it is now i am referred to a psychologist for the first time in years, i gave up almost completely on that kind of treatment, but for the first time in my life, i feel ready to talk and the need to. Trying to force someone who doesnt feel the need to talk to do so, is not really helpful and sometimes people just arent ready for this kind of thing. That doesnt mean they never will be though. So maybe ask yourself, do you not want to go because it is unpleasant but could eventually be helpful or are you simply not ready even though you are struggling? Because counselling can be very unpleasant but sometimes it has to be to be helpful. It is after all difficult things you talk about. But not being ready is what it is and you cant force that even if your friend says something like that (which isnt really helpful in my opinion, but i can understand the frustration if the person found it helpful and you then dont want to go)
this form for therapy is not for everyone and you may want to look into other forms as sarah said. Though i wasnt ready for one on one therapy i found group CBT very helpful at the same time. It was another approach and it helped me recognise the behavior, feelings behind and helped me see what i could to to stop it happening again. It was a more practical approach in my opinion and i found that helpful. I also really liked music therapy as that was another way to let my feelings out and not as vocal as i had a lot of trouble being vocal. Groups are also a type of therapy that i would recommend as you get other peoples experiences and people who can relate to you if you feel alone.
Really there are many options and i didnt find all the therapy i have had helpful but some really was and i havent always been ready for specific types, but now at a different time in my life i am. So if you didnt like the normal one on one talking session, maybe try something else. That you may not be ready for thakind of therapy is not the same as not wanting help at all or not being ready for the other types.
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