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Old 13-03-2014, 02:46 PM   #1
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Hurt by another MH patient...

I'm having problems with another CMHT patient, he is following me and saying things that are really frightening me. I've told CMHT but all they have told me is because he has bipolar and is ill I just have to put up with it as he doesn't know what he is doing and never will as this behaviour is part of his illness.

But I'm really struggling with the fact he is allowed to do this. They speak to him and it gets worse with threats. I tried the police, who had to contact CMHT who said he was ill etc etc etc.

*I* think he knows exactly what he is doing. He puts on an act for staff, which they totally fall for, and then it gets worse for me. He knows, thanks to staff, I have no family or friends or anyone to help me and that they consider me to be a 'difficult patient'; I know from another patient the pattern for him doing this is particularly 'vulnerable' patients e.g. no support or help.

I live in a very small town so it's not like I can easily avoid him.

I'm not sure what I want from this post, maybe some understanding?

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Old 13-03-2014, 07:10 PM   #2
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I think, that an illness is no excuse for behaviour like that.
Don't know what you could do except speak to staff again.



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Old 16-03-2014, 12:41 AM   #3
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Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear you're having this problem right now, and that your CMHT is seemingly doing sweet f*** all about it.

What he is doing is wrong, whether he's ill or not, if this is how he acts to members of the public then he should be sectioned for their safety. Your CMHT has a duty of care to everyone who interacts with him and they need to take steps to ensure their safety.

My advice would be to speak to your local police again, and if possible the victim support department, and explain that you have discussed this with CMHT and they use the excuse that he is ill, but it's getting worse and affecting you badly. If he is so 'ill' then he should be admitted.

No illness is an excuse to make other people feel uncomfortable/threatened/scared.

I think your options would be;
a. call your local police and speak to them again,
b. ask to speak specifically to victim support department,
c. speak to CMHT again and record the conversation you have with them (ideally both written and audio),
d. speak to the manager of your CMHT centre and put in a formal complaint about the patient and the staff who have ignored your comments.

Can I ask how he is doing this, is it all in person or is it via internet/phone/written etc?

Bipolar is not an excuse to make someone feel like this.

I have been through similar things before, so feel free to PM me if you want anything I've mentioned explained.

You need to concentrate on keeping yourself safe, and speaking up when you're not, the local police and his medical team have a duty of care for you.

At the very least, the police can have alarms fitted in your home/give you a personal alarm which might make you feel safer. You could also look into a restraining order on him which would mean he can't come within a certain distance of you.

Either way, please keep fighting to get this persons behaviour dealt with, don't let them rule your life. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable. They are letting you down by letting this behaviour slide.

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Old 16-03-2014, 09:46 PM   #4
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Hey there,

That sounds very distressing and i agree that just because he is bipolar it shouldnt be excused.
katie gives some very good advice.




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Old 22-03-2014, 01:52 PM   #5
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Its in person.

What I have been told is it is very very minor and wouldn't upset anyone else. But it does upset me.

I did try the police but he is known to them and they then contact CMHT and well thats that. He has only actually touched me once but is a huge man and brings back other memories for me and really frightens me when he comes near me.

I did complain about this but the health board ignored my complaint and now there's legal action and I just can't cope

Sorry I've got to stop this post as upset an in a library.

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