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Old 10-03-2014, 03:43 PM   #1
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What should i do ? pls help urgent

I had like one close best friend . we have been friends for four years . she was much controlling and possessive friend at the beginning and didn't like me having other friends all this was in school and i was never against her . i used to care a lot for her whenever she fell sick , i was around her always through thick and thin , we joined in same college too and i bunked my soft skill classes for her as she had stage fear coz some guys in class used to make fun of her and she was scared , i skipped my one exam as she was not able to be inside the exam hall without id ... all this happened in our college time and now we are still in college and she got a bf and things changed a lot between us she always hangs around her bf ..and i feel like a third wheel...i skips my classes for her still she takes me so much for granted we are still great friends but her parents didn't approve to her relationship with her bf but i supported because she begged me a lot to a few days back she ate poison for that and took her to hospital and i was there along with her but then the next day when i called her dad was like i shouldn't come over to her house and i felt much hurt so after that when she called me i made my mom tell her never to call me or anything . i did a lot for her in my life she changed college now i too did and lost my 2 yrs and i fought with a guy in college who wanted to sexually abuse her and stuffs because of her i even lost my name and after all this now she eloped from her house and when she comes online she never texts me .only once or something has she texted me never after that .why is that so ? whatever be the problem between her and her bf she shouldn't have been like this to me she took me a lot for granted .....even after me doing so much for her she only loves and values her bf and doesn't care about me actually ...and now she too joined in the same college where i have joined and she has been apologizing me for all the things she had done to hurt me... but something i dint feel a sincerity in it ..she is like i am so rude to her even if she told me so many sorries ...she does not call me unless she needs my help. now that she made a new friend and in front of her she behaves as if she likes her a lot but to me she tells a lot of negatives about her. i dont know what to do now..i told her many times i have forgiven her for all th things she has done to me but then she feels i still hate her because i dont talk to her she tells me she will change from this college too because she feels like she is being a disturbance for me ..i dont like to continue this friendship because i have done a lot in my life for her as a friend . dont you feel that i have done a lot for her in my life ..am i being a bad buddy what should i do again ?

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Old 16-03-2014, 11:13 AM   #2
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Sorry you haven't had a reply till now. You need to do what is right for you. If this friendship feels wrong to you then it is okay to let it go. Friendships have to be about give and take. I would only stay in the friendship if you feel something of value. Hope this helps



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Old 18-03-2014, 08:13 PM   #3
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Hey there,

Like Kat says, friendships are about give and take, friendships dont work if they are one-sided.




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