Any advise on how to get more answers to my forum questions? I need some as use right now and the last 2 or 3 threads I've posted have zero responses. Should I be doing something differently?
I'm sorry you haven't got any replies. RYL is often quite quiet, so it's not necessarily anything wrong with your post, although I would say that the last two threads you posted were pretty much about the same thing, and it might help to keep to one thread per topic so responses can be directed to just one place instead of two.
Personally, I saw your thread, but as I'm in a relationship, I felt that if I replied I might come a cross as annoying or smug!
Posting more than one thread on the topic won't help.
I haven't seen your thread but is your title clear?
Is it a niche topic as I've gone on threads not had an answer and thus not replied to them
What forum is it in as some forums are very quiet
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I would just say try to make posts as short as possible, make sure the title is clear and that it is posted in the right forum. Also as others have said keep one thread to one topic and don't post several threads on the same topic as it can get confusing.
I hope this helps, you can always PM me if you ever need to talk.
Okay can you all please stop judging me for putting up multiple threads. If somebody gave a **** about the first one I wouldn't have posted another one okay? Jeez
I don't think anyone means to judge; sometimes RYL is quieter at certain times such as holidays, weekends, exam period, and it can take longer to get a reply. Generally i'd say, it's always better to bump and old thread (if the issues haven't changed) as you can get so much better advice.
Also, I put a lot of threads on subscribe (this means I get a notification when the OP replies, so I can reply again) if I am worried, and people making new threads means I can't do this (as you can't subscribe to a user). So I would say, in the interests of support, you can get better support by bumping your thread than starting a new one.
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Okay can you all please stop judging me for putting up multiple threads. If somebody gave a **** about the first one I wouldn't have posted another one okay? Jeez
You asked for advice, people gave it to you in a polite way. No one was judging.
My personal opinion is, do not ask questions if you genuinely dont want the answers to them if they dont fall in your taste.
I saw your posts but had no input so i did not respond. Thats fair play. Rather a couple useful replies than ten replies of hugs and kisses in my opinion.
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Like Sophia said, it is not meant as a judgment.
It is just easier for people not to repeat what others said if you stick to one thread, and it is easier for yourself to keep track of things.
You asked for advice, people gave it to you in a polite way. No one was judging.
My personal opinion is, do not ask questions if you genuinely dont want the answers to them if they dont fall in your taste.
I saw your posts but had no input so i did not respond. Thats fair play. Rather a couple useful replies than ten replies of hugs and kisses in my opinion.
I DID want answers to them or I wouldn't be posting first of all and I definitely don't need 10 responses telling me the exact same thing!! If you all think it's just so stupid of me to put up more than one thread than fine but I didn't want to hear it over and over
Like Sophia said, it is not meant as a judgment.
It is just easier for people not to repeat what others said if you stick to one thread, and it is easier for yourself to keep track of things.
Sure but on this one thread alone all people want to do is reiderate what others have said anyways, which doesn't exactly feel much better to hear th same thing over and over again
I think I can understand that, but that is still far from being judged or being called stupid. Nobody did that.
Also, that is actually what happens to any thread that gets more than a handful of replies: lots and lots of repetition. If you take a look around the boards you will see that that is why some have so many replies: everyone saying the same thing essentially.
Have not read your threads, but it can be useful, when making a post, to think about what you wish to gain from it.
Do you want someone to know what you are experiencing?
Do you want to hear from people who can relate?
Perhaps you'd like advice on something?
Sometimes we simply need some affection and that's cool too.
Of course, when we aren't well, it can be hard to pinpoint what we want, and it's ok to say if you do not know, but if you can state what you are looking for (and not looking for), it makes things easier for readers (who may also be unwell) to respond in a way which is most relevant to your needs at that time.
Long and complex posts can be tough on a reader, but so can very short and vague posts. Simply giving readers permission to give partial replies, or to ask you for more information, can give them confidence to reply.
It's a complex equation, but over time, we can all improve how we seek and give support.
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Thank you, I hadn't thought about that. I think I forget that you guys don't really know about me and everything that's going on
I think Epic makes some very valid points. One of the important things to remember about this site is that people don't intentionally ignore you. It's just that sometimes people are unable to find the right words to make a reply. Everyone on this site is here ultimately for the same reason - we're all going through a tough time (for a number of different reasons). Sometimes if people are struggling themselves they find it hard to reply to others. Another point to bear in mind (and please don't shoot me down for saying this) is that you've got very defensive at times on this thread - that's something else which can put people off replying - when people are feeling low themselves they're less likely to comment on a thread where they're likely to get criticised for trying to help.
As people have mentioned before, if you're in a crisis and you're struggling to get help on the forum, then also consider using either chat or live help - both are really good for getting instant support.
