not ok

[zivalover16]

My ex and I broke up about a month ago and she got nasty. I decided to be nice and try to be friends with her and that turned out bad. she was messaging me saying she wanted to get back together and have the family we planned. I said it wouldn't work out and she has issues she needs to work on.. Well this is the response

I just want to say u blocking people over an over will never get u anywhere in life life dosnt come easy and noe that u have a job an are in the real world time to grow up crawl out from ur moms ass an grow up...plus I think u are an attention seeker I don't believe that some of the things u said happened to u ever did. An don't talk to any of my friends anymore including mike he dosnt like u none of them do an I was dating Ashley but brokeupywith her last night cuz I realized u to would be perfect for each other both crazy oh an yeah when I say don't message mike ever again I mean it me him an kyle all sat around laughing the other night about ur immaturity. Bye oh btw message Ashley u guys really should hook up
An I was serious about the smell swear over my gma


I am pmsing so this got to me more than it normally would. Well I ended up hurting myself tonight a little but it wasn't enough and I feel the need to hurt myself again. I can't tell my parents and I just got a new job so I did it where no one would be able to see it. I'm sort of afraid of going deep but at the same time am not.... My body has also been hurting me a lot more then usual... I just can't take this anymore

[Unbreakable.]

I am sorry to hear you are feeling so distressed. You seem to go through a pretty rough time and I can understand that urges are harder to fight off right now.

Have you ever learned any coping strategies to replace self-harm when you are so upset? Maybe you could try and use them and see how helpful they are. If you feel you can't stay safe you can always go to your next A&E.

[susieannah]

Wow, it sounds like getting away from your ex was a good thing! I'm sorry she is being so cruel to you, it's not acceptable. It seems that she is lashing out because she's hurt, but that's no excuse. If she really believed all those things, she wouldn't have been so keen to get back together and have a family! Don't take to heart what she is saying, she is hurting and looking to make you feel as bad as she does; she probably just wants to feel she has some power.

I hope you manage to stay safe. Have you any kind people around you who could support you through this? *hugs*

[zivalover16]

Thank you.... I haven't been doing that great. My family is the best support I could have. Mom found out I cut recently and didn't freak out at me but understood and just basically said keep one foot in front of the other. What is done is done. I feel myself slipping back though and find myself fight myself not to do it every night. My ex messaged me and said if I don't stop post statuses about her she will get be kicked off facebook.... I posted one status about growing up and didn't even mention her. I talked to my co workers at my new job and they made me feel horrible because they said I should have stayed with her since she has cancer and that I abandoned her. It made feel me feel horrible. Like I said I've got an amazing family who back me up and have all blocked her and talk to me when I need.

[susieannah]

I'm glad your family are so supportive and caring :) Keep focusing on that.

I think your colleagues are being quite unfair. I don't think cancer is a reason to stay in a relationship that isn't working. I understand it will be tough on her at this time, but it is not right to fake feelings that aren't there anymore. If you feel it was the right thing to do, then we are behind you completely. Anyone who isn't willing to consider your reasons for ending it is not worth listening to.

I think you need to distance yourself from your ex. Unfriend her on facebook, delete her phone number. This toxic situation is hurting you, your mood is suffering; you need a break. Maybe she does, too.

*hugs*