Where I live we have a locked letter box for each cluster flat. In mine this evening there were 2 letters to someone not me, at my room number.
Now, we often get post for previous tenants. But I've not seen this name before. And it's from UCAS. So presumably recent.
I want to believe that there's just a mix up over room number or block name. Or its for a previous tenant somehow.
But I am, paranoidly perhaps, panicked that someone else will suddenly turn up to move in, when I'm obviously not moving out, nor plan to, and the housing officer knows this - at least I emailed a couple of months ago and got acknowledgement of that.
I've emailed the housing officer for clarification [and hopefully reassurance] but have to wait until Monday for that.
And I feel so panicked.
Though there's probably some logical explanation and things are fine, it's instinctive in me to assume always I'm on the edge of being thrown out - from home, from work, from anywhere really. Repetitions of past stuff.
No, I hadn't... I'd have to go back down to get their full name if so. I've put it in the tray for 'not at this address' post.
Oh, and I should clarify that the actual envelope has this person's name and my room number printed on it.
It is very likely that there is just a mix up in post so try not to stress too much. If you look at it from a logic point of view you signed a lease so they can't just kick you out. Perhaps you can do some nice things for yourself to help distract you.
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UCAS- Universities and Colleges Admissions Service. They send you your welcome letter/confirmation letter and so on for uni. Thats how students apply to go to university here.
Well I spent over an hour on the phone the other day with student finance trying to convince them that they had sent my paperwork to the wrong house (somewhere id never lived before) and that they needed to send it to me. Same thing has probably happened to her.
I think its important to think rationally about it, theres no way they can just chuck you out,they have to at least give you notice and a proper reason and Im guessing theres never been anything to warrant them wanting/needing to do that.
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
Liv, no, there's no reason for them to get rid of me. And I know they have a lot of procedures in place. It's possible that they're another block, but the automated system put this one as it's the main block. This isn't even a student block, so... And it wasn't exactly a local London uni [I could see in the envelope window, wasn't snooping!].
It's just extremely disconcerting, especially when I'm already insecure at the moment.
Mine didnt get sent to a student block either,it got sent to somewhere in derby and I live in kent!!
I think it situations like that its best to make a list if you cant calm yourself down and see it logically of all the that a.they would have to do before getting you out and b.write a list of all the things you have done to get thrown out, im going to say there probably wouldnt be any reasons on that list.
Thats what I would do next time instead of emailing the people. Although I know that it seems like a good thing to do, I think its important to be able to talk yourself down and reassure yourself without the reassurance from them if that makes sense.
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
I've lived in my own home for 10 years and no one has ever lived here before. I've still had a couple of letters with the wrong name. People make mistakes. I'd use the method of writing for and against thoughts that are likely to be irrational and then coming up with a statement that covers how you are going to think about it considering all the evidence. They do it as part of CBT.
I think because both are from UCAS it's more than likely to be a simple wrong address in their system, rather than anything else. And while I know you were panicked I do agree with Liv about the email especially as we can say things without our full logic when in a panic (that part of our brain is switched right off). So calming yourself down, mentally and physically, to bring that logic, rational mind back into action might be something to work on. (Grounding is very good for this, if you're familiar with that).
Thanks everyone. :)
One is actually from the Uni itself, via UCAS and the other's UCAS.
Good point to reflect rather than react first. As things have been until now, my strategy for paranoia is to reality check, and the part of me that gets out of touch of reality needs concrete evidence otherwise I just can't shift things.
I'll have a ponder...
And you're right, Liv. There are no reasons for them to kick me out suddenly. I've done nothing problematic [bar cry a few times, but in my room on my own, and I guess that's kind of human, right?] I don't make a noise, I am pleasant to my neighbours [when I see them around, which is rare]. I clean up after myself in the kitchen. [Some don't!] and so forth.
I accept now how I'm really unwell at the moment. Though I am managing it. Just.
