Sex and medication *embarassing*

[Ballerina123]

Sorry. Really embarassed about this but...

The new meds I'm On Make it really hard for me to orgasim during sex.
In fact since being on the increased dose I have not climaxed.

The meds are helping but they still need increasing to stabilise me further.

Thing is how do I approach this with my team? What should I say? Like what words should I use?
My psych is a man which makes it a bit more embarassing :/

Sorry.

Thanks
Kate

[whirlpools]

Perhaps you could say you are experiencing sexual side effects of your meds? Or problems with sexual function. Or maybe side effects intruding on your intimate life with your partner. They are fairly vague but may lead the psych. to ask more prompting questions. Or maybe ask your care co-ordinator to tell him, or write a note outlining it to give him.

This is a side effect that is increasingly bothering me, too. If it turns out there is an answer would you mind sharing it? If so, that would be very helpful.

[dollpart]

I had this on SSRIs when I was 19- terrifying to talk about! But I said something like "to be honest, this is really not helping with my sex life." They'll know this is a side effect; they'll know what you mean. Perhaps once they start responding to what you're saying, you'll find it easier to relax a bit more yourself, and talk about it.

[zigzagzebra]

it might be easier if you stick to technical medical language. I felt awkward when I had to bring it up but the doctor didn't take it lightly as I imagined he would. He gave me compassionate concern because sex is important. Especially as you're in a relationship.

I second whirlpool's idea of writing it down. Might make it easier to open the discussion

[Ballerina123]

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Originally Posted by zigzagzebra

it might be easier if you stick to technical medical language. I felt awkward when I had to bring it up but the doctor didn't take it lightly as I imagined he would. He gave me compassionate concern because sex is important. Especially as you're in a relationship.

I second whirlpool's idea of writing it down. Might make it easier to open the discussion

Thanks
Can I ask what was done about te problem?

[Ellyx]

I had this problem with 3 different types of SSRI anti-depressants. I didn't know how to approach it, but in the end I just kept it brief but explained the problem.

I was told the solution was to try a different type of medication (I.e not a SSRI)

[zigzagzebra]

I was advised to wait until my body adjusted to the meds although I ended up having to try a few different ones.

[Princess-Rah]

Kinda out there...but maybe it is easier because its a guy your talking to. Men tend to be more driven by orgasm so he might be more receptive to talking about it and to doing something about it? I've had these problems too, as a result of sex side effects and others I have more away from prescription stuff and am using a natural approach. Sort of works but 0 side effects which means so far so good... Good luck, try not to be embarrassed as sex is a natural part of everyday life and your meds really shouldn't mess with this :)

[Mandimoo]

On a practical note have you tried other approaches like using a vibrator to see if it helps?if it works you could use a bullet or something until you have adjusted. It is so frustrating when you can't get there.

[Ballerina123]

Thanks for the replys. I will see how it goes. Hopefully I will shuts to the meds.

[IchBinHier]

It's a very common thing, don't worry. All sorts of medications can cause problems in the bedroom. I'm sure it has already been said, but just say that you've been having problems sexually, with your partner, and believe the medication is the cause; he'll probably ask a question or two, you answer, and a choice is made. Honestly, he'll have probably heard it a million times. It's completely normal.