Anybody else struggle?
I live alone, I've not washed any clothes in 3 weeks I just wear the same stuff over and over with more deodorant and perfume on each time
Dishes stack up, hovering never quite gets done,bathroom uncleaned...
Tips on motivating myself?
It's almost like once it's gotten so far it just seems impossible
Any body relate?
I guess I want reassurance it isn't just me being a discusting excuse for an adult.
Save me, O God!
The water is up to my neck;
2 I am sinking in deep mud,
and there is no solid ground;
I am out in deep water,
and the waves are about to drown me. 3 I am worn out from calling for help, and my throat is aching.
I have strained my eyes,
looking for your help.
I can relate a lot. I find it really difficult to keep on top of things when I'm not doing well and often end up with no clean clothes, living in a complete tip. You are not disgusting, just struggling, and I'm sure a lot of us can relate.
I know it gets frustrating being told to break things down, but it is good advice.
Like, instead of telling yourself you need to sort everything out, try to just focus on one thing, like doing some laundry. Maybe find a way to reward yourself when you do get things done. If you can get on top of things as much as possible, I find it helps to try to get into a decent routine - like, once I've eaten, wash the dishes straight away instead of letting them pile up.
I don't always manage but it helps a bit.
Take care of yourself.
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
I can relate to this so much, you are not alone. You are not disgusting, your struggling and that's nothing to ashamed of. I agree with the above breaking down the chores really helps me. You could set yourself a goal of doing one chore a day for example monday you do the dishes, tuesday some laundry etc. I have also been given the advise to break bigger tasks down into smaller tasks too which helps for example instead of cleaning the whole bathroom you could break into tasks such as cleaning the sink, cleaning the shower, mopping the floor etc.
You might also find it helpful to have something to reward yourself each time you complete a task. Lastly if something doesn't get done don't beat yourself up over it, just keep trying. Take care
Kat xxx
"Recovery is something that you have to work
on every single day and it's
something that doesn't
get a day off."
When I am like this I make a plan for myself every evening for the next day. I decide that I am going to do 1 thing. So it's not too scary to start and do things.
And I tell myself that there are no excuses.
Sometimes it helps me to do things at a planned time of the day, that way I don't procrastinate as much.
You survived the abuse.
You're gonna survive the recovery.
You have no idea how relieved I am to read that I'm not the only one who struggles so much with "simple" tasks... I see the house as a reflection of my mind....eg. the house is messy when my mind is messy.... It's like I don't see it until it's so bad and then it just seems to be too much to tackle so it's easier to ignore it. No tips for you sorry....but so glad I'm not the only one with this problem.
Bombsite here . Cant really explain it im just not bothered . Dont think i have hoovered for about 3 months i cant remember exactly. As for my kitchen i now call it a working kitchen , house needs blowing up to make it tidier.
I struggle a lot with this. You are certainly not alone. I try and prioritise the areas that have more of a negative effect on me when they're not sorted. And I tell myself that there is a difference in untidiness and dirt, so Concentrate on the cleaning rather than the tidying.
I can't imagine how anyone keeps on top of chores. I only have to keep my bedroom clean and that's hard enough, never mind a whole house or flat. I would agree with breaking it down and rewarding yourself when you have done something. Chores are a pain in the a**!
Ps. I also fnd it is easier to do a little bit often then try to face a huge mess all in one go.
Last edited by nowhereman : 01-07-2013 at 03:24 AM.
