Triggering (Sexual Abuse) - housemate joking around

[JinX]

i dont really know what im going to say in this, or exactly what i hope to get out of this, but i just feel as tho i need to tell someone it...

i was watching a film with my new house mate earlier, and she was texting a friend of ours who has jsut split up with his gf and is intending to go out on the pull. she was reading out what he was txting and what she was txting back, and one of her txts said something about us helping him find someone whose gorgeous etc.....then she laughed and said 'i cant write that, it would sound bad in a text, but it sounds funny in my head' i asked her what it was and her response was 'if that doesnt work, you could always try date rape'. i tried so hard not to let any emotions show on my face, trying to pretend that it didnt bother me, that visions werent flashing before my eyes, i told her while trying to laugh with her that she couldnt joke bout thigns like that. i hate it when people joke about stuff like that. its not funny, not when its happened to you and has controlled every moment of your life from that moment onwards. i dont know her well enough to tell her why she shouldnt joke about it and for it to matter to her. ive already told her that ive had a miscarriage this year, and that was bad enough for her to take (im 20 and in my last year at uni, and not the sort of girl that gets pregnant!). it was just so hard not to run out of the room then screaming that i could see him again! what am i supposed to do to stop her from joking bout it again!?!

has anyone had this problem before? what did you do? what can you suggest?

sorry for the long rant.
JinX
XxX

[black_vortex]

Unfortunately i dont have an advice. But im sure you know she didnt mean it meanly. Personally, i joke about things im scared off. Gives them less of a hold on me. So while i understand how serious and horrible something is, its the best way i can manage with it myself. Im not saying that what she was doing. but it does happen. Maybe tell her a friend, or even just someone you know, has had that happen to them, and its effected you ever since (i.e you realised it can happen to anyone). Thats what i usually do when i dont want to admit something, but want people to understand its a touchy subject with me. Take care of yourself, honey

[svenn]

i'm sure thatshe did not mean anything bad by it. if i were you i would take a minute and talk to her. i'd say something like, "i know that we don't know each other very well, and i know that you meant no offense when you made the date rape comment last night, but i just wanted to ask you to not make comments like that around me. i don't want to talk about why, i am just asking you not to." and leave it at that. you do not have to talk about it with her if you do not want to. there are subjects that i do not allow people around me make jokes about and that is generally how i tell them. very matter of fact. i'm sure if she knows that you are offended by comments like that then should not say anything like again.

[Angelheart]

Hi I hate people joking about things like that too. Just politley ask her not to mention anything like that again as it upsets you.
alot of people say things without even thinking about the consequenses hun..x

[AndBreathe]

Maybe you should explain why you'd rather not hear her joke about things like that. Just tell her that you've had personal expieriences and it brings up bad memories, and leave it at that.
I really hope all goes well for you :)