Well today at like half 7(doesn't sound very late but it gets very dark at that time),and well i was walking home,was going to get the bus but it's sunday so not many buses. And as i was walking home this guy stops me and asks me where i was going and stuff so i thought erm ok,but i told him and then he took me down like this little ramp thing to go into tescos(very long and dark) but as tescos was shut he said he was going to the petrol station,so we got there and he said did i smoke so i said yeh and he bought me cigs(:S). So anyways we got out of there and he went "anyway my name is Ali" so he put his hand out,me assuming me wanted me to shake his hand,and as i went to shake his hand he held my hand,and held on very tight,so i was trying my hardest not to cry,and we walked a little and his hand started to loosen so i pretended i was looking for something in my bag so he let go. After about 5 minutes of walking i said i had to go home because it was getting dark so he said "can't you stay a little longer,if it gets dark i'll drive you home" so i said that i really shouldn't but he grabbed my hand and said it'd make him happy,so i felt too cruel to say no. So we carried on walking,and he asked for my number so i(very very very stupid) gave it him,i somehow thought if i gave him the wrong number he'd get me
Then he just said i could go home and left me about 20 minutes from my house.
I ran home as fast as i could,and went to my room and cried my heart out and just stayed there staring into space. I phoned my boyfriend and told him still crying down the phone and he kept shouting at me and saying how could i of been so stupid to walk home in the dark.And said i was a selfish bitch,and that going for walks at night is just stupid and dangerous.I know i should just leave him,but i just can't,i can't do it.
So here i am,sobbing my heart out,the guy i thought i could trust the most doesn't even care about my feelings.
Sorry to rant but yeh i thought you guys would have more sympathy than my own boyfriendd.
Yaz xx
Last edited by DropDead- : 14-10-2007 at 11:16 PM.
*big hugs*
you're not a selfish bitch,
I'm sure your boyfriend does care about your feelings, he's probably just upset about what happened.
Once he's calmed down I'm sure things will be okay,
take care, and talk to him about this, don't keep it bottled up
xxx
omg sweetie..no no no ur not a selfish bitch!!! ur just scared...and that is totally understandable...just know ppl care...ii care... pm me ne time...
much much love
in other traditions demons are expelled externally, but in my tradition demons are accepted with compassion. - Machik Labdron
they were perfect, they were beautiful. they met in the middle of nowhere, in the middle of nothing, and kissed where everyone could see. no words. no before. no after. they kissed and it was perfect. it was beautiful. it was everything. it was nothing.
It seems like your boyfriend cares a lot - mine would have reacted even worse if that happened to me, because it literally hurts him when I'm in danger. Men feel like they're responsible for their girlfriend's well-being sometimes, and if anything worse had happened to you, he would likely feel very guilty for 'allowing' it.
What happened sounds really scary, and I think you're lucky. I understand how you can make very poor decisions sometimes.. being afraid of saying no, not having enough time to think, there's a lot of reasons for it. Just next time, once you realize you're in a bad situation, try to think more about what you're going to do. He took you to a public place? Run away, yell, attract attention to let people know you do not want to be with that person.
I'm sorry this happened to you, but do you have an idea of what you would do in the future? If that person starts harassing you over the phone you could call the police. And if you plan to continue walking at night, it might be good to invest in Mace or a body alarm. Please take care sweetie; no one wants to see you get hurt.
I don't think you're a selfish bitch, you just made a mistake that could've gotten very dangerous.
Hey sweetie, am so happy you ended up getting home ok......I don't think you should walk by yourself though at any time near dark or when there aren't many people around.
Don't worry that you made a mistake in giving him your real phone number, you didn't have time to really think about it and remember HE doesn't know it was really yours...if he does text or call you, you can just pretend to be someone from London or something (it says you're in Manchester so that's far away) and have no idea what he's doing and can he stop pranking you, then he'll think you gave him the wrong number. Or can you block numbers on your phone or something?
But yeh, definately try not to walk alone again. Am sure your bf didn't mean the selfish bitch part, has he spoken to you about it since? Am sure he was really worried about what had just happened to you.
Hey, sorry you had such a scary experience and I'm glad that everything turned out ok.
It really sounds like your boyfriend was worried and scared for you. Its hard when people you care about are in danger and he probably didn't know how to handle it. He only got so upset because you matter to him. Maybe after a bit you can try and talk to him and explain that how he treated you wasn't helpful and that sometimes you just need to be comforted.
You definitely aren't selfish, you were afraid. When this kind of stuff happens, try remembering that you deserve to be safe and comfortable. Its not bad to say no to a guy; its not a big deal. Its just what you need to do to protect yourself, especially when its dark and you're alone.
we all have thos moments which seem like a good idea at the time, but hindsight kicks in very quickly and we realise how silly we've been i' human nature to make such mistakes.
But it's your boyriend that upset you the most isn't it? He was worried. when you told him what had occured, you scared him out of his mind with worry of what did happen to you and wehat could have happened to you. if he didn't care he wouldn't have had such a strong reaction. I've done silly things in my past and ive had people yell at me when all i really wanted was a comfoting word. it's because they caree that they act the way they do.
try and talk with him face to face, i'm sure he feels bad for some, if not all, of the things he said.
Don't be fooled by my smooth skin. The deepest scars are the ones unseen.
Remember compliments you received, forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how..~ Baz Lurhman.
Letting it get to you - You know what that's called? Being alive. Best thing there is. Being alive right now that's all that counts. ~ Doctor Who "The Doctors Wife" 06.November.2011
Thanks alot guys,i told my counsellor on monday,she phoned this lady up at the family support place(i don't have a clue where),and she said she thinks it would be a good idea if i told the police. =X
So today at 4pm,i'm going to the police station with my counsellor(mum still doesn't know as she's on holiday),and i'm so soo scared,this thing has kind of happened before. A few years ago when a guy pulled over at a bus stop where me and my friend were(we was only about 11/12,but it was about half 10 at night),and told us to get in the car,you can imagine which one actually tried to? Me. We went to the police and they had a go at me and said i was irresponsible and if it hadn't of been for my friend i could of been in a lot of trouble.
That's mainly one of the reasons why i don't want to go,because i'm scared they'll just blame me again,even though i guess it is kind of my fault.
My boyfriend did bring it up again today,he asked me if i was scared about tomorrow so i told him i was but that i'll just have to handle it and i have to be grown up. But he said that grown up people don't do such silly things,and he said one day i'll stop being a stupid little girl.
Which yeh,kind of peed off about since he said he wasn't going to mention it and he just brought it up when i really didn't want to think about it.
I wish i could tell my mum,but because of all my self-harm and overdosing,and everything that's been happening lately,we're trying to start things fresh.And this holiday was supposed to relax her,she wouldn't have me to worry about,and i don't want her coming home just stressing all over again.
Hey! you're not a selfish bitch. you were afraid, though I do have to agree that walking at night can be dangerous (do as I say, not as I do! lol). If you know this creeper's # and cid, don't pick up to him (or pick up and tell him "wrong number"). And you could do so much better with bfs.
*hugs*
pm me if you need to talk
Without a light I fear that I will stumble in the dark,
lay right down,
decide not to go on.
Plumeria Sister
My boyfriend did bring it up again today,he asked me if i was scared about tomorrow so i told him i was but that i'll just have to handle it and i have to be grown up. But he said that grown up people don't do such silly things,and he said one day i'll stop being a stupid little girl.
Grown up people don't do such silly things? YES they do actually, sometimes things even dumber than that. i could read of a list of ten friends and the things they have done. all of which seemed like a good idea at the time but hindsight showed they could have turned dangerous.
common sense comes with experiecne and not age. and age and experience don't always go hand in hand.
Don't be fooled by my smooth skin. The deepest scars are the ones unseen.
Remember compliments you received, forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how..~ Baz Lurhman.
Letting it get to you - You know what that's called? Being alive. Best thing there is. Being alive right now that's all that counts. ~ Doctor Who "The Doctors Wife" 06.November.2011
