Those of you who've been around for a while will probably remember the 1234 scheme which was a weekly scheme for making RYL a more supportive place. We've decided to relaunch it, and for this, we need as much support as possible; and every little counts.
The scheme works as follows:
1 day - such as Sunday 2 forums - try and give your best replies in 2 different Forums 3 replies - try and reply to three threads 4 smiles - three people you helped, and yourself
This may not sound like very much, but if thousands of people replied to 3 threads, it would make a very obvious difference. We don't want you to do more then you can - but hopefully we can keep this thread bumped every week and remind ourselves of the support community we can be... the support community that we are and help our friends and strangers!
Please consider forums or threads with fewer replies, such as Veterans Support or Eating Disorder Support and respective subforums. We've also included some tips for how to reply to difficult posts below. They won't be for everyone, but they might just give you the confidence to start replying:
Tips for replying
Read through the post properly. This helps you understand the situation from the members point of view.
Get an understanding of what the member is asking or wanting.
Acknowledging their situation/feelings. Even if you don't agree with what they may be feeling, it doesn't take away from the fact that they *are* feeling it.
Main point(s)/problem(s). Try not to assume what their main problem is unless it is obvious. If in doubt ask them what it is.
Questions are a great way of really understanding, but avoid using more than two.
Use links on the main site. Links are always something to consider. It gives your fellow member as much information to read that might help, at their leisure.
Remember that it's always being updated, so check for new resources.
Make long posts more manageable. Break the post down into different section e.g. paragraph at a time. That way if it is a long post it doesn't seem unmanageable and you can respond to more of the points that have been raised
Take care,
The Supporters (Originally written by Chloe)
It doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you go.
No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do.
We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us.
We're definitely going to hell,
but we'll have all the best stories to tell.
I think that this is a great idea! It seems very reasonable too :)
I know that there are many people who DO post more than 3 replies every week though also.
I know that there are many people who DO post more than 3 replies every week though also.
Yeah, I agree, there are a lot of people who give amazing support around the forums. I guess that this is to try and increase the support rate further! :D
Sounds like people are guilting themselves about 'slacking' =S
Don't!
I presume this posted is intended politely and only for people who are in the right headspace/have enough time for supporting right now, not to make anyone feel bad!
It's not my place to say but I'll say it anyway due to excess fearlessness; everyone is a welcome valued member, whether or not they're in a place to offer support right now :)
Just to say, I wasn't trying to accuse anyone of guilt-tripping, I think it's an absolutely fab idea, I just worried that some people were taking it the wrong way. I hope I make sense, I really don't mean to cause offence. (Can you tell I'm in an over-cautious mood today?! :p).
I would also add that GSA is also a bit quiet these days, so if people are looking to do this, going in there might also be a good plan! (I found five threads earlier with no replies)
As said, this post isn't intended to make anyone feel guilty, it's just a nice little idea for if you want to do it! :)
Reminding people of stuff like this is always good too ^_^ xx
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you.
But there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself.
I aint no abacus but you can count on me.
Um, I already reply to several threads a day and do it in a very precise order (hashtag doesn't even have OCD but acts like it) so I'm not doing this exactly, but this is a post registering my keenness for generally replying to support threads! Hope that makes sense =S
I think that's a good idea Belle :) And everyone knows and appreciates the people that reply to several threads a day. But hopefully this thread will help encourage people who are unsure of whether they have anything they can offer, to show them that they can and do. I remember when I first joined, I was reluctant to reply to people's threads because I felt as though I had nothing useful to contribute, or because I didn't know the member in question, that it wouldn't be okay to just jump straight in there. So if I'd seen this thread, it would have made me feel better about replying :)
hopefully this thread will help encourage people who are unsure of whether they have anything they can offer, to show them that they can and do. I remember when I first joined, I was reluctant to reply to people's threads because I felt as though I had nothing useful to contribute, or because I didn't know the member in question, that it wouldn't be okay to just jump straight in there. So if I'd seen this thread, it would have made me feel better about replying :)
I think that's a good idea Belle :) And everyone knows and appreciates the people that reply to several threads a day. But hopefully this thread will help encourage people who are unsure of whether they have anything they can offer, to show them that they can and do. I remember when I first joined, I was reluctant to reply to people's threads because I felt as though I had nothing useful to contribute, or because I didn't know the member in question, that it wouldn't be okay to just jump straight in there. So if I'd seen this thread, it would have made me feel better about replying :)
This exactly :).
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Originally Posted by thumbelina
Good idea, my supporting often comes and goes in waves, this might give my supporting a little more consistency and make me feel better about myself - it bums me out when I look at my recent posts and they are all R&Vs.
Yeah, I do that sometimes! Hopefully having this thread to post in and suchlike will be good.
Would it help to have a specific day or do you think this is something we could look to more regularly? I say this for target reasons, not because people don't support on other days! I know that they do!
