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Old 03-12-2012, 08:39 AM   #1
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Doctor gave me a depression questionnaire...

It feels like a trick because on the back it has a scoring chart. I mean, it's basically asking me what I want to be diagnosed with.

5-9 Minimal symptoms
10-14 Mild depression/Dysthymia
15-19 Moderate depression
>20 Severe depression

It also lists the treatment recommendations for each category. It's all written like instructions for the doctor, like "Ask the patient....." and "Consider the patients preference for treatment..."

If I answer honestly I'd end up in the 4th category, but that seems over dramatic and attention seeking to me. He literally said "This will be the easiest test you'll ever have to take."

Well, I've spent days trying to decide the best way to fill this out. If I should be completely honest or hold back a little or lie altogether.

Then there's this stupid "Over the last 2 weeks, how often have you have you had thoughts that you would be better off dead, or of hurting yourself in some way?" question. Does self harm count or do they just mean suicide type things? This is the worst one because if I say yes, then I'm in trouble. Then they might tell my grandma and she'll just yell at me and lecture me on how all of this is just the result of mistakes I've been making in my life and I need to stop making mistakes all the time...

I'm debating about just throwing the sheet away and telling him that I forgot to bring it.

I just don't trust this thing, it feels like there is no way I can fill this out and still win. I either admit I'm having trouble and then start the whole annoying process of trying meds and paying for them and appointments all the time and risk my grandma finding out...or I lie and say I'm fine and let my school work keep slipping and probably also eventually lose my job...maybe worse things too.

I'm sorry for complaining, I know that people have actual real disorders and mental illness and I'm whining about something so small...sorry I'm selfish and complaining even though I know this.



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Old 03-12-2012, 12:21 PM   #2
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I was diagnosed using the exact same questionairre I think?
(was something similar to this one? https://www.mysurgerywebsite.co.uk/s....aspx?p=E82115)

I hated it too and think it is a really really bad way to diagnose.



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Old 03-12-2012, 12:36 PM   #3
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To your question self harm would count.

Don't throw the questionnaire out, be honest, the questionnaires there so that the doctor can get a vague knowledge about where you're at and what symptoms you're having.

Risking your Grandma finding out is something I think you need to do, you need and deserve help and your Grandma is going to have to learn to accept that.



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Old 03-12-2012, 02:12 PM   #4
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In answer the the question "Over the last 2 weeks, how often have you have you had thoughts that you would be better off dead, or of hurting yourself in some way?" Self harm would definitely count.

I think you should try your hardest to be honest, Ok, your grandma might find out but at least you will be able to get help, manage to retain your job and succeed in school. Worse things will happen if you lie or brush it under the carpet.

I just wanted to add as well that, your not complaining and depression isn't a small issue either. You have every entitlement to post here.

Hope things improve for you soon x



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Old 03-12-2012, 03:20 PM   #5
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be honest. i know it is difficult when you know how the tests are scored, but just try to pretend that you don't




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Old 03-12-2012, 03:48 PM   #6
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Something I am coming to terms with is that suffering by yourself is not actually strength. It's okay to ask for and get help if you need it. Be honest, and take care of this while you are in uni, not letting it fester till you are past the support you get in school. It'll help you in your career life, because at least some of it will be your past, not your present. I offer that from experience.

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Old 03-12-2012, 11:26 PM   #7
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I was diagnosed using the exact same questionairre I think?
(was something similar to this one? https://www.mysurgerywebsite.co.uk/s....aspx?p=E82115)

I hated it too and think it is a really really bad way to diagnose.

Yeah it was very similar to that. It also had the last two columns highlighted blue, like you know there's a problem with you if you have to check one of the blue boxes instead of the white ones...

So I just filled it all out and was honest about it even though it was hard. I got a 22 which still seems over dramatic to me so I'm a bit uncomfortable about it. I decided to do it in pencil though so if I change my mind and want to put different answers before the appointment, I can. I just don't feel that my depression is bad enough that I managed to score a 22...

Thanks for the replies, it made me feel less nervous about filling the sheet out.



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Old 04-12-2012, 02:02 AM   #8
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leave what you wrote. put it in an envelope and seal it if you have to.

we can get used to things and they start to seem normal even when they aren't. the first time i took a test for my ocd i got a super high score and thought it couldn't possibly be right, and that i was being melodramatic. but i really wasn't. it was just that things build up slowly so we don't always realize where we are really at




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Old 04-12-2012, 09:14 PM   #9
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I agree with what everyone else has said - especially thumbelina. When you've done them a couple of times (or even if you're just paying attention) you know what scores will lead to what diagnosis.

Trust the doctor, they wouldn't have given it to you if they thought you were just ok. And it won't get better unless you start somewhere.

Good luck :)



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Old 14-12-2012, 04:32 AM   #10
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My appointment was today, I didn't change any of the answers. So I got diagnosed with depression...again. I am being referred to a psychiatrist and am going to be started of meds soon. I don't know what my cousin was talking about when she said this doctor was horrible. He was really awesome actually, he asked what I wanted to do instead of pushing meds on me right away.

Anyways, this is like the 4th time I've had to go through all of this. I really hope it works this time.

I still don't know what I'm going to tell my grandma though, she was convinced it was a thyroid problem or something. She's going to give me that disapproving look when I tell her. I know in her head it's going to come across as "Oh, so you aren't really sick. You're just being lazy and if you ate better/ exercised more/ worked harder/ went out more like I've been telling you to, you'd be completely fine.

It's not fair. Why is it that when you have something like depression, other people expect you to explain yourself. I always get a lecture on why it is my fault that I have depression because I'm not doing things right. I think to negative, I don't have a good sleep schedule, I let this happen...

People never do that to you when it's a physical illness. I really just don't know what I'm going to tell her because she isn't going to be nice about it...



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