once again I failed

horselover · 11-09-2012, 01:23 AM

I feel so stupid and pathetic. i cant even go a month without cutting. i cut last night and now i want to again.

PassedExpectations · 11-09-2012, 02:37 AM

how many urges have you resisted though? rather than counting days and time, try keeping a tally between the urges that you beat and the urges that you give in to. doing that helped me to see that i'm not going back to the beginning when i gave in and to keep things in perspective to help me keep moving forward...

Wonderland. · 11-09-2012, 06:15 PM

You are not stupid or pathetic at all, cutting isn't easy stop hence why forums like these exist. Do you have anything you find that helps you get through the urges without harming?

Take care.
Amy x

crazykat · 17-09-2012, 10:24 AM

Your not stupid, it sounds like you really tried to resist the urge to cut and that counts for alot. Try not to beat yourself up over this. Keep fighting xxx

pixiedust_11 · 17-09-2012, 10:38 AM

Please don't feel stupid and pathetic, we all know for a fact that you're not. As it's already been mentioned self-harming isn't easy to give up, and you should try to see each achievement for what it is in all it's positivity rather than telling yourself you're not good enough. It's difficult, but switching the perspective can really help sometimes.

Have you developed any strategies for how you can get through some of the urges? Coming up with a list that works for you can sometimes be really helpful. It's also easy to understand why you'd want to suddenly self-harm again after slipping up, but that's only because your brain has been reminded of why it is you were doing it in the first place. It's not a good behavior in the long time, but your brain, when in that frame of mind, thinks it's all it needs. Objectively, we know this not to be true. Easier said than done, I know, but try to remind yourself that you're trying to give up for a reason, and that you can get through it. It takes time but it certainly is possible.

horselover · 06-11-2012, 09:40 AM

Thanks for all the support guys still trying to fight the urges but the past week I have cut 3 times when before I was making it 2 weeks so yeah nt doing to well...