Deepness

[Artemisia]

Knowledge and wisdom collected by the very insightful Lexy Shapley and republished here for even more people to see:


'Do more than belong: participate. Do more than care: help. Do more than believe: practice. Do more than be fair: be kind. Do more than forgive: forget. Do more than dream: work.' - William Arthur Ward

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'In this sad world of ours, sorrow comes to all... Perfect relief is not possible, except with time. You cannot now realize that you will ever feel better... And yet this is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again.' - Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

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'The only time you ever have in which to learn anything or see anything or feel anything, or express any feeling or emotion, or respond to an event, or grow, or heal, is this moment, because this is the only moment any of us ever gets. You're only here now; you're only alive in this moment.' - Marianne Williamson

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The issue of romantic pursuit can be a complicated one. Women are 'nice' when it comes to rejection as I believe that we are taught that 'speaking it clearly and early may lead to unpopularity, banishment, anger and even violence.' We are taught that being upfront is harsh and society has created a culture where the word 'no' can mean things like maybe, not yet, give me time, keep trying and not sure. 'No', however, is a complete sentence. Women and men need to be taught it's ok to explicitly reject. Do not negotiate. Do not explain. Offer no reasons.

Hence, I wish to share this unconditional and explicit rejection.

'No matter what you may have assumed till now, and no matter for what reason you assumed it, I have no romantic interest in you whatsoever. I am certain I never will. I expect that knowing this, you'll put your attention elsewhere, which I understand, because that's what I intend to do.'

The only appropriate reaction to this is acceptance and anything different should serve to do nothing but cement your decision. Who would want to have a relationship with someone who does not hear what you say or recognise your feelings?

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'You have the right to be wrong. Let your ideas fail, let your skills prove their inadequacy, and let your knowledge reveal its limits. None of that is the real you anyway. When you fail, you discover your boundaries. You map out the edges of your capabilities. And this allows you to eventually move beyond them. Being wrong eventually leads to being right. And even where it doesn’t, it’s still a more interesting path than being nothing.' - Steve Pavlina

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'You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose.' - Jo Coudert

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'Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.' - Joan Lunden

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'In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life. It goes on.' - Robert Frost

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'Honesty has a beautiful and refreshing simplicity about it. No ulterior motives. No hidden meanings. An absence of hypocrisy, duplicity, political games, and verbal superficiality. As honesty and real integrity characterize our lives, there will be no need to manipulate others.' - Charles Swindoll

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'Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life... You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.' - Neil Gaiman

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'Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."' - Mary Anne Radmacher

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'There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don't expect you to save the world, I do think it's not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect.' - Nikki Giovanni

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'Trust your hunches. Hunches are usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.' - Dr. Joyce Brothers

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'If you think only of yourself, if you forget the rights and well-being of others, or, worse still, if you exploit others, ultimately you will lose. You will have no friends who will show concern for your well-being. Moreover, if a tragedy befalls you, instead of feeling concerned, others might even secretly rejoice. By contrast, if an individual is compassionate and altruistic, and has the interests of others in mind, then irrespective of whether that person knows a lot of people, wherever that person moves, he or she will immediately make friends. And when that person faces a tragedy, there will be plenty of people who will come to help.' - Dalai Lama

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'Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow - that is patience.' - Unknown Author

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'Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.' - Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

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'Blessed are those who give without remembering. And blessed are those who take without forgetting.' - Bernard Meltzer

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'If you love large, you've got to hurt large. If you've got a lot of light, you've probably got an equal amount of darkness.' - Sarah McLachlan

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'Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.' - W. Clement Stone

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'Forgiveness is the healing of wounds caused by another. You choose to let go of a past wrong and no longer be hurt by it. Forgiveness is a strong move to make, like turning your shoulders sideways to walk quickly on a crowded sidewalk. It's your move.' - Real Live Preacher

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'An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we truly function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes.' - Patricia Fry

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'Things don't go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.' - Samuel Johnson

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'You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, some time in your life.' - Winston Churchill

[Tig]

These are great, thank you :)