So, I have an application form for the YMCA, I want to apply... I do! I'm just...I don't know...I don't even know how to phrase what I'm asking but I guess this hits the mark the closest.
How do you live alone? How do you cope? There seems to be a difference between "being" on your own, in a house with your family, and "living" on your own, in a house with...just you.
I don't always eat, to be honest I only do so in this house to please and not worry others. On my own, there'd be no one to try for.
I don't always go out, or get out of bed. But I feel like I need to live on my own to get more independence for myself. I don't know what to do...for the best.
Just tonight, I wont leave and I'll lie and you'll believe. Just tonight I will see, that it's all because of me
Have you heard of independant living or a group home type of situation. I don't really know much about it but I've been vaguely thinking about it as kind of an inbetween living with people and living alone independantly. I think they have staff how check on you, can control medication and that kind of thing...
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I have been living on my own since December, I was totally dreading it and thought there was no way I would be able to do it but i've found it a lot easier than I imagined and I actually enjoy it, it's made me a lot more responsible and independent, worth a go imo!
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I have lived on my own for a year and a few months now.I much prefer living on my own, as with others my mental health stopped me doing things, like I wouldn't go intothe kitchen or lounge of my last flat when my flatmate was around because I was just so paranoid of seeing him, so I would go long periods without drinking or eating. I like living on my own because I can do whhat I want when I want, without the fear of upsetting anyone else. Although it is hard at times, because I'm very depressed I tend to not tidy and keep the place clean and because it's only me and I don't seem to care, it doesn't really matter.
I think the only reason I can live on my own is because I did it gradually. I lived with my parents and sister up to the age of 18, then moved into halls, sharing a flat with 3 others, did this for 2 years, then moved into a flat with one flatmate, then where I am now.
Things like bills really stressed me out just before I was going to move in on my own, but they have been really easy to sort out.
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As musicmad says, it might be worth seeing if there's any supported housing or similar in your area. I moved out at age 21 and lived in supported housing until a few months ago. They left me to it a lot of the time but I had appointments 2-3 times a week to sort out things like bills, cooking, shopping etc. and they helped me emotionally too.
I still see them for another few weeks, I'm seeing them on average once a week at the minute and will switch over to 'floating support' who will do something similar soon.
I find living alone a mixed bag. It's so nice to be able to just have your own space in which to do what you want. I like it, if I can't sleep, to be able to just wander round the flat, make something to eat, watch TV etc. without disturbing anyone. Bills aren't too much of a worry and I can sort out my own furniture and make the place my own.
On the flip side, you have to be careful about making sure there's a reason to function on a relatively normal level. I struggle with this, still. I often find myself just sitting on the sofa talking to myself for hours, or staying in bed until afternoon, and the place is usually really untidy and I rarely cook (but do manage to eat). I find it helpful to have a reason to get out of the house each day and to make sure I socialise where possible - a timetable to structure your day and evening can be helpful if you stick to it.
