I got in a serious accident and in cast and have to stay by family. We never got along and they never wanted me to stay with them before. It is really hard because I tried to remain calm when they were yelling at me and insulting me and I didn't manage and broke some things. Now they want to restrict my movements, locking me in my room etc. Called my doctor who felt it was a fire hazard- but relative didn't believe me and called another of my doctors. I am angry because although the injury is not related to my MH I still am feeling the impacts of PTSD and my family is over stepping by calling my doctors on me.
I am really scared, plus in pain- cause I can hardly do anything without help. I think that I have a right to express myself and choose to go out, even if I am in a cast or not. I just hate being told where I go who I can speak to etc. Even my BFF couldn't help me. I have conceded to stay but I feel as though I will become more unwell as a result.
~Happy tomatoes together we will be~
You say toe- may- toe, I say toe- mah- toe:
Let's call the whole thing- red
“It’s time to lead the third revolution, which is not to say we want to be at the top of the world, but to say we want to change the world. Because the way the world has been designed by men is not working. It’s not working for women, it’s not working for men,
it’s not working for polar bears.” Arianna Huffington 2014
My parents used to lock me in my room and my doctor said it was fine I even called the police several times and they said my parents had every right to do it because they were trying to protect me from myself. I haven't really got any advice but I'm just posting to say I understand how horrible it is
If your accident had nothing to do with any MH problems then they have no right to lock you up - they have to show you are a potential danger to yourself or others before they could start thinking about that. Even then, they should not be locking you up themselves, if they believe you are a danger they should be discussing sending you inpatient, not keeping you a prisoner at home *hugs* what do your doctors say about all this? I personally think it's ridiculous.
Ask me mistakes I have made
Ask me whether what I have done is my life
Others have come, in their slow way -
And some have come to help, or to hurt -
Ask me what difference
Their strongest love or hate has made.
I guess I am just trying to be calm. The family dynamic is being forced to have my doctors talk to my family when you feel as though that was your safe place adnd now you cannot even get permission to go to appointments. Scarily my doctors did not seem to be making as much of an effort to come and see but they plan to, so I am trying to remain calm.
It is alot of.......it's all in your head. The only person who kept me calm was when my BFF visited, but then everyone was mocking me because they couldn't stay and threatening to take away phone priveleges. I am trying not to lose my cool again. But it is so easy. I am sneaking in this post even.
Gotta go. Thanks for the support.
~Happy tomatoes together we will be~
You say toe- may- toe, I say toe- mah- toe:
Let's call the whole thing- red
“It’s time to lead the third revolution, which is not to say we want to be at the top of the world, but to say we want to change the world. Because the way the world has been designed by men is not working. It’s not working for women, it’s not working for men,
it’s not working for polar bears.” Arianna Huffington 2014
**** that's awful. If they are trapping you and giving you emotional abuse that could compound your ptsd. If you have ptsd you should read 'trauma and recovery' by Judith Herman to support your choices and recovery in future. I'm really sorry you are going through this. You need a plan to stay sane until you are free. Maybe try to order your thoughts in a letter to your doctor and ask for a session to decide a coping strategy with them. They should know that clinical being trapped could be a step backwards for your MH with ptsd or c-ptsd. Trying to stay calm sounds really positive, hang on to that.
I am personally avoiding my family as much as possible at the moment as I'm finally trying to get to grips with c-ptsd. I can't think of anything worse! Have the physios given you a timeframe for being independent again? Have you lost your own home or do you have somewhere to go back to? Lots of lovex
Last edited by Artemisia : 19-07-2012 at 10:42 PM.
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I am not able to get home and the GP is forbidding it. In my llife there is a lot of blurring of roles between friends family and the professionals who assist me. I was always afraid if I became mentally unstable my rights would be violated but physical incapacitation feels the same. I am fearful of being "caught" doing something even though I am being cared for well.
I self harmed in full view of family and support as I was unable to deal with the stress of a quarrel that just wouldn't stop and was mocked- you are just looking for attention. I had not done that particular type of self harm in months to a year......
My mental health carers promise to come to see me but I feel it will be too late- that our relationship is already damaged as they have left me to fend for myself too long. It will never be the same- it will be a performance from now on. Because I am angry at them and I have to act as though I am coping.
~Happy tomatoes together we will be~
You say toe- may- toe, I say toe- mah- toe:
Let's call the whole thing- red
“It’s time to lead the third revolution, which is not to say we want to be at the top of the world, but to say we want to change the world. Because the way the world has been designed by men is not working. It’s not working for women, it’s not working for men,
it’s not working for polar bears.” Arianna Huffington 2014
My health carers claimed I should have made more of an effort/ taken the initiative to call them back. Maybe they were busy/ distracted but I have to appreciate their constraints in wanting to maintain confidentiality and being concerned that my home situation would not have allowed for that.
I feel more passive about having my rights trampled on a bit, partly because my self esteem/ self confidence is impacted negatively, and I am feeling conflicted about the message of right to autonomy preached by my psychologist for example vs. the litany of incompetency that I am preached by family.
With the physical injury I got the attention/ support that I craved, but it only highlighted the fact that my mental health isolates me a lot.
~Happy tomatoes together we will be~
You say toe- may- toe, I say toe- mah- toe:
Let's call the whole thing- red
“It’s time to lead the third revolution, which is not to say we want to be at the top of the world, but to say we want to change the world. Because the way the world has been designed by men is not working. It’s not working for women, it’s not working for men,
it’s not working for polar bears.” Arianna Huffington 2014
