So i've not been feeling well for the last few weeks and sorry for tmi but just hit my time of the month to be greeted with all the cramps and none of the actual periodyness except for the first day where it was really light.
So today mainly out of curiosity i went and grabbed a dollar store pregnancy test and got an immidiate strong positive. We joke about having kids and do both want them, but are currently living in my in laws basement, and my cars just been written off so its not exactly perfect.
But now im not sure how to tell him, should i just suggest grabbing an actual decent test with a little more accuracy and 'find out' that way? Or just tell him? Tbh it wont change anything with us and although im sure he'd be a little nervous we do both want kids, we just weren't trying currently!
Any advice would be appreciated as i tbh i wasnt even expecting a positive and im not even sure of the accuracy of a $1 test!!!
Well, if youre unsure, i would say first go buy a reputable brand test, just for your own peace of mind, and then you will have more um.. evidence to go on. it doesnt seem entirely fair to drop someone with a bombshell and then possibly have to retract it.
Although, i did with my first one and still bought a second and third one when the first said i was pregnant :P
I think when its not expected, theres no proper way of telling the other half. Just try and chose a time when hes not stressed or hasnt had a terrible day or you havent just been reminded that money is tight and stuff.
I told my other half when we were making dinner. Which in hindsight could have back fired massively cos a pan full of spag bol over the head would have hurt!
Lol doesn't hurt to be sure, i just wasnt sure if its the 'done thing' to take the test without him...felt a little like going behind his back? which it technically is! >-<
N lol how do you even say that to someone, just a 'oh and by the way...'
well.. i think if you are planning for a baby mostly people do the test together (according to tv anyway).. because they are both expecting a yes, and then they can be all excited and such.
however, if its somewhat unexpected, i guess it makes sense to double check before announcing it. Like.. i dunno, if you won the lottery you would probably double check the numbers before announcing it.
i think when i told Stuart i said something along the lines of 'my period was late showing up, i did 3 pregnancy tests, they were all positive.. i kept them if you want to see and check' i think he then carried on stirring the spag bol said 'oh right i see.. we'll make an appointment with the doctor then will we' and went for a cigarette.
I agree, test again. If it's true, then tell him. He will have one of three reactions: Shock, happiness or utter "OMG". There is no perfect time, and there's always a reason for this. I wish you luck (:
Thanks guys :) my mom comes tomorrow from england tomorrow too after two years so in for a few weeks of utter crazieness anyway - so guess i should get this sorted asap lol
Hopefully if it is positive again then he's happy - we may be making an offer on a house soon too (eek) so not too worried about the whole basement dealy
One thing i will say, obviously i dont know your situation at all, but like, people worry because everyone says babys are super expensive blah blah blah. They dont have to be if you shop around. My other half only just got a full time job (he doesnt even start till next week) and we have managed to get everything we have needed, and stocked ourselves up on supplies that should last us a good few months. Plus we have got some properly lovely things as well on a pittance.
Lol we have the advantage of pretty much everyone in the family that can is either very pregnant or just had a baby (boys and girls) so we'd be looked after for stuff i think, my only issue would be living with my mother in law with a baby...i think she'd drive me insane!
Took another two clear blue's today - first one didn't work (wth? boo!!) and the second one was a clear 'pregnant' 3+ weeks apparently >-< Oops!
Called my hubby at work cause we're about to get retardedly busy here with my mum visiting and have no personal time, n told him. Hopefully he's okay, he just sounded very shocked...
lmao i know right, in retrospect prolly not the best way to tell him, i did tell him i was taking a test tho so he knew something was coming, just assumed the opposite i think! I just didnt want to wait ALL day and i was working a late shift soooo :P
Yup we've had a chat and he seems happy/excited and nervous so sounds like we're on equal ground. Except now im paying stupid close attention to everything happening in my body and am freaking out at every little thing, cant get to a doctor till next tuesday though :(
Congratulations hun, I'm so glad your husband's happy and excited (I think all men get nervous at this stage). I'm very happy for you, and know you will make wonderful parents :)
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