Is it rude?

[Musicluv2012]

Is it rude if your always the one having to talk to the same person first all the time?
If it is why is it?
If it isn't why isn't it?
What are you suppossed to do about it?

[FabulousMike]

Mmmm...

I don't think it's rude, maybe they don't know how to start the conversation, maybe they think they are bring a bother to you, maybe they are just not in the mood to talk anyways, or maybe they don't pay attention to who's online so don't see you on..

There could be 100 reasons why someone wouldn't start the convo all the time.

Maybe you could ask the person if they are up for talking before you actually start with a deep and meaningful conversation.

[The Stolen One]

I rarely start conversations, not to be rude but because I don't want to bother someone. I do enjoy conversations and talking though! I guess sometimes self confidence plays a role.

If I do start I have a genuine reason like wanting to meet up, offer a nice word (on here) or to sort something out. I very rarely start general conversation.

[Backfromthebrink]

I'm interested. Why does it bother you?

I guess it can be tiresome when you feel like your doing all the work, and maybe it might seem like rude to you, but it completely depends on both the persons personality and your relationship whether it's rude or not.

[GlitterTrashDoll]

I don't think it's rude per say, but I think it's annoying. To me, it makes the friendship feel very one sided and when it comes to the point where I am always the first person to start up a conversation or get in touch with the person, I stop. I expect friendships to be a two person thing and you both have to put the effort it, I don't want to be the only person doing it.

[Steel Maiden]

It's not rude. Some people find it hard to start a conversation.

[Musicluv2012]

I was just wondering what everyone thinks about it

Quote:

Originally Posted by Backfromthebrink

I'm interested. Why does it bother you?

I guess it can be tiresome when you feel like your doing all the work, and maybe it might seem like rude to you, but it completely depends on both the persons personality and your relationship whether it's rude or not.

[Musicluv2012]

I agree with what you say I think it's also annoying if i'm the only one making the effort.And the relationship should be a two person thing.

Quote:

Originally Posted by GlitterTrashDoll

I don't think it's rude per say, but I think it's annoying. To me, it makes the friendship feel very one sided and when it comes to the point where I am always the first person to start up a conversation or get in touch with the person, I stop. I expect friendships to be a two person thing and you both have to put the effort it, I don't want to be the only person doing it.

[Musicluv2012]

They could just say hi at first to start a converstation
that's what I do sometimes.
How will you know if someone finds it hard to make a conversation and thats why their not starting them?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Steel Maiden

It's not rude. Some people find it hard to start a conversation.