Well dont really know where to start tbh. I got diagnosed with anxiety this morning and trying to cope and feel better but im not sure how too cope really. So has anyone got any ideas? I'd also like someone whos going through the same thing to talk to please?
I'm sorry you're dealing with this; anxiety is such a horrible thing to experience. Have you been offered any help or support with it?
Do you feel able to say a little more about what's going on for you - how it mainly affects you, anything that triggers it, what you've tried to help so far? It might help us to give you better suggestions.
There are a lot of things you can try to help with anxiety, it can be really difficult and take a long time but it's definitely possible to get it under control. There are a lot of good self-help resources online too that might be worth trying.
I can relate; I'm struggling a lot with anxiety at the moment and it's really horrible, so I'm around if you want to talk or anything.
Take care x
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
Hi, no i havent been offered help because my doc says its not bad enough to do anything about, despite it actually taking over my life right now.
It mainly affects my want to do things. I dont want to do things anymore and evertime i get anxious I feel so sick I cant make myself eat. Nothing triggers it which makes it worse cos I have nothing to concentrate on to get rid of it. So far I have tried music (but the noise really bothers me and makes me worse) tv/dvds (which again the noise and visual bothers me too much and makes me worse) I tried relaxation and breathing techniques which help if I'm only slightly anxious but if I'm bad then it doesnt help and gives me less times to control myself before a full blown panic attack.
Thank you for replying. Feel like I'm going crazy. My life keeps getting turned upside down with my mental health
Ahhh, I just wrote out a long reply and then accidentally closed the window without posting it! How annoying. I'll try to remember what I put!
I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this; I can relate a lot and it is awful.
I'm sorry you haven't been offered any help with it. I wonder if it might be worth going back to your doctor and stressing again how much this is affecting you, or perhaps seeing a different doctor. If you have a family member or friend who could go with you and back you up that can be useful.
It is difficult when you don't know what triggers it as then you don't know how to tackle it or what to do to help. Are you able to identify any thoughts that you get when you're feeling anxious? Sometimes that can help as if you can identify any negative thoughts then you can start challenging them.
I can definitely understand not wanting to do things because of anxiety, but I think in the long run that is likely to make things worse. I've found that when I'm anxious about doing something the best thing I can do is push myself out of my comfort zone and do as much as possible anyway, as then I realise that nothing really bad happens and the next time is a little less scary. Don't be hard on yourself when you can't or push yourself too hard, but do keep trying to do as much as you can. I know it's difficult though.
It's good that the relaxation and breathing techniques do help a bit, and maybe if you keep using them and practising them it will get easier and you'll be able to use them effectively when you're feeling really bad, or even be able to stop it progressing to that point. I can tell you some of the things that I'm finding helpful at the moment, I don't know if they'll be useful for you but they're probably worth trying!
When I'm really anxious or having a panic attack I find that the type of grounding techniques that are usually suggested for helping with flashbacks can be really useful. There are some here [http://www.recoveryourlife.com/index...5_articleid=2] and a lot available online in various places.
I find it helps to have something comforting I can hold and focus on. Also because I kind of lose touch with myself when I'm panicking, repeating my personal details to myself can help a little. I also get stuck in a cycle of being trapped in my own head and focusing only on the anxiety symptoms so anything that takes my focus outside of myself is helpful. I like counting things [e.g. all the red things in the room, all the round things, whatever].
There are some self-help courses available online that you could try using. ecouch[ecouch.anu.edu.au/] was recommended to me by a counsellor and has programmes for anxiety and worry, social anxiety, depression, etc. You can choose which one/s you do, depending on what is causing you the most issues.
I find listening to guided meditations or podcasts and such useful; as it helps me to focus on the techniques but also sometimes just listening to a voice can be comforting. The Mental Health Foundation has some good ones [http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/help-...ion/podcasts/].
Sorry for rambling! I hope you're able to find something that helps as dealing with anxiety isn't fun at all. Look after yourself and please PM me if it would help to talk.
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
In all fairness I don't want to be put on meds and I cant have therapy cos theres only one therapist per surgery where I am and I really cannot stand the woman who is my surgery therapist. She treats you like you are five.
The only thoughts are from my paranoia, I always think people are ignoring me, or not want to be there for me but I know its my paranoia so I can control them thoughts quite well.
I know I don't want to do things but I always do them because I don't want to end up being stuck in a rut where i cant leave the house and everythings and effort. I've been there and I dont want to be there again.
Thank you for the grounding link, I will keep that in mind for my next episode. I always have my cuddly toy dog with me to comfort me cos I know how bad I can get. I found last night that getting a conversation going about anything helped me focus on something when my head was really bad. But that isn't always possible.
Thank you very much for the guided meditation link I spent ages trying to find some yesterday but couldnt find a thing.
Hi
How are you coping now? I know from personal experience anxiety can be an awful thing to deal with. Hopefully the links Starling has given you have been of a help too. Keep fighting, you will get through this. Take care
Kat xxx
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I'm sorry you're not doing well just now. Would it help to talk about the bad news?
Look after yourself x
"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day.
Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet.
It'll get better. Until then, have a day."
My boyfriend that I split up with doesn't want to see me anymore. He's currently not speaking to me either which is making things harder. I just need a few answers with it all.
Hun could you send him a simple message, saying "i understand you don't want to see me and this will be my last contact with you, but please just give me the answers to these... *insert questions* to help me realise what went wrong between us?
as for the anxiety - i struggle pretty badly with it too... so can relate
my old therapist tought me a "tapping" relaxation method which helped somewhat.. maybe try googling that? :) xx
Hi, I text him and asked to talk and after a long winded texting session of "i dont know what you need to know" and me replying "i just need some answers and dont want to text it" he finally said we can talk when hes done his chores after work. So I hope it goes well.
Is there a particular reason you don't want meds? Its totally legi not to want them - just really meds helped me with my anxiety so much. Its not all every day antidepressant type meds - there are lots of options. I have some I can take just before doing things thatmake me very anxious which are nt psych meds but help with the physical symptoms only for example. Iguess what I am saying is not all meds are the same.
I don't know where you are but here we have a books on prescripton thing where basically you can be 'prescribed varius self help books. There is also online CBT so you wouldn't have to deal with a therapist you didn't like.
Also as there are so many types of counselling and therapy it wouldn't be possible for one therapist attached to your surgery to offer them all so maybe you could ask aout being referred to someone else?
Anxiety is really horrible I hope things start to improve.
Well he didnt ring, I text him and he ignored me. He finally text me about 10pm last night and said sorry we will talk tomoro (today) if i still need to. So he's [hopefully] ringing me tonight after 7 cos I'm busy until then.
From personal experience, meds are a great way to go. I've struggled for years with anxiety and depression, as well as ocd, which is my way of dealing with the anxiety. I finally was put on meds after a hospital visit, and it was a great thing. My doctor told me, that sometimes, those things can trigger other medical problems. My weight has shot up dramatically, I have polycyclic ovariation syndrom as a result of the extra weight, constant headaches, change in sleep habits, as well as change in foods I used to love, and back problems. There all connected, just think about that. Sometimes quiet is best when your anxious, and so is hugging a pillow. Breathing works wonders, so does a nice shower. Sometimes you need to talk to yourself. I've been there, and I've gotten panic attacks so bad I can't move, that the hubby has to drag me out of bed to put me in the shower, so I can calm down. As far as the boyfriend, or ex, he isn't worth you stressing yourself out over. You may care, but your worth so much more. I'm here for you my dear.
