I've just finished my foundation degree & I go onto a 3rd year in September for BA Honours degree & it'll be the same college & mostly the same people, minus a few of us & adding in a few new. But my timetable is changing & my favourite tutor won't be teaching us or in on days we are & it'll be a different structure & more independent working & it just makes me feel uneasy
Anyone else find it really hard to deal with change?
I don't have much in the way of advice but can relate to the fear of change and I don't know, for me it leaves me feeling vulnerable and very frightened about what may or may not happen.
Is there anybody you can talk to who is going to be in the same college as you about how you are feeling?
Take care, x
Ps, hopefully someone with more useful words will also reply to this!!!
I'm awful with changes, small and big, but sometimes, change can be good, and change has to happen, we are always changing. It's hard to adapt to the changes though for a lot of people.
I think because it's out of our control, it makes us scared and uneasy about it, but try to calm yourself and reassure yourself it's okay, you'll get used to the changes and you'll be fine with it all, it'll just take some time to adapt.
You're not alone with this either, a lot of people find change difficult and nerve wrecking, I'm sure there's other students feeling the same way, so you're not the only one, you're not alone.
Maybe as Tig said, do you have anyone at college you can talk to about this? Counselor, teacher, friend, family member maybe?
You're not alone with this either, a lot of people find change difficult and nerve wrecking, I'm sure there's other students feeling the same way, so you're not the only one, you're not alone.
x
I think this is a brilliant point. It is actually quite natural I think to be afraid of change or at least concerned about it and questioning what is going to happen because of the change.
Agreed with cryptic! I am so afraid of changes I won't even get haircuts, I'm terrible when it comes with them. One time my doctor went down on my add meds I freaked out because i was worried about if I would become a do do again
I am not doing it for myself, I am doing it for them!
Love and miss them like crazy
I tend to struggle with change too, as I have attachment difficulties from when I was very young.
Recently I had a major restructure at work, and got a nearly totally new team. But I stayed in the same location, and that really helped. My managers know I struggle with change, and, whilst they didn't quite 'get' why I was so upset to lose my manager to a different one, they did bear it in mind and were very supportive.
I'd have a chat with your personal tutor person and see if they can come up with anything to help you through. It can also help to focus on the things that are actually staying the same, the constants, which can provide like an anchor in the swirling changes.
Thanks guys.
I think the problem is that I'm scared of it not being as good as before because I love it so much & my life was such a mess before & I don't know what I'd go on to.
I think a lot of people feel the same way.
It won't be the same, but that doesn't mean you should compare it any say it's better/worse than now, it's just different. If you look for something, and it's missing, you'll be disappointed, but if you just say to yourself that you'll have lots of new (and great) experiences.
You said you're doing third year (ie. final year?). From what I hear (being only 2nd year myself) final year is great, because it's "easier" than 2nd year, so if you enjoyed last year, then next year will probably be awesome.
It doesn't matter where you come from; it matters where you go.
No-one gets remembered for the things they didn't do.
We won't all be here this time next year,
so while you can take a picture of us.
We're definitely going to hell,
but we'll have all the best stories to tell.
I understand how change in one or many areas of life can affect you. I have had situations where change has occurred and it has seriously affected me in some areas, and not affected me too much in others.
It takes a while to get used to change. I suggest if you find it a struggle, or before hand as you are feeling uneasy now is to talk to someone there about it.
It might be a small conversation with a trusted lecturer, or it might be a session(s) with a counsellor.
Its up to you but it is good to be able to recognize that this is an area you will need to work through, with a little help :)
I hate change too. It makes me so anxious and scared and upset because sometimes I feel that I struggle enough as it is, so how will I cope with anything new?
However, this year for me has been full of absolutely huge changes and although it was very difficult I am better off now. Change is a part of life and if you try to see it as a necessary step on your journey, hopefully it won't seem so scary.
