So, basically I'm wondering how soon is too soon to get into a relationship after getting out of one?
I was with a guy for two months but ended it on Friday, mainly because 1) I was being made feel too insecure. 2) He didn't accept my feelings and 3) He would never listen to me or arrange to meet up or anything.
So, I have been talking to this other guy, who is sweet, caring, kind, honest...basically everything I want in a guy.. And he has basically told me that "he's mine if I want him".
Would it be too soon to get into another relationship after just ending one? I have never been in this situation before so I don't really know... :/
Katie, I don't think there's such thing as "too soon." What I mean is it's only "too soon" if you don't want to be in a relationship yet. If you decide to start something with this new guy, yeah, there will be people (including your ex, probably) who will think it's too soon because there's some sort of unspoken social protocol that says we should wait a while before jumping back into a relationship. Nobody ever says or even knows how long one should wait. But that shouldn't bother you. If you want to be with this new guy now, and you feel ready now, then you should go for it now. Because the only thing that really matters is how ready you feel.
I, personally, think it's up to you. There are no right and wrong answers. What is too soon for one person might be too long for another.
It depends on the people involved and the situation you're in
I think you should go with whatever you think will make you happy :)
Good luck
I tend to think theres no set time. If someone has come along and you feel happy to go into a relationship with them, I cant see why not. Also, with the previous relationship being 2 months, I think its even easier to move on, than if the relationship spanned over years.
I think if you like him, and want to give it a go and feel ready then you may as well :)
"If only everyone could know and live with their inner craziness…people would be fairer and happier." Paulo Coelho
Well, I am now in a relationship with the other guy. It just feels right. The last few relationships I've been in I've also hesitated when the guys have asked me, but this time round, I knew the answer and what I wanted straight away.
I do feel guilty over the other guy.... But I'm kind of at a point where I have to start thinking of my own wellbeing and happiness and try to stop worrying about how others may react. Of course, I do feel awful...but it just feels so right with my boyfriend that I can't help but want to forget about the other guy.
I know this makes me sound like a complete bitch though...
Doesn't make you sound like a b***h to me. I have not many experiences with relationships, but to be concerned about your own well-being seems pretty normal - and healthy.
However, I'm wondering, you're feeling like that because you want to forget your boyfriend, or because you think about yourself first (it isn't really clear for me in your post) ?
-- English is not my mother-tongue, so I apologize for any spelling/grammar mistake --
Well, I don't really know what you mean.... I talked to my ex and he seems to be okay with it. We weren't close really, so I don't think it effected him at all. But I still feel slight feelings of guilt because of how soon I got into a new relationship (I broke up with him for the other guy, in all honesty). But I don't know, the feelings of guilt are going more and more by the day because I just feel so content with my boyfriend. Which really does make me sound like a horrible person.
