I know nobody likes ageing, well at least i think that's true, but anyway I hate the fact i'm ageing and it's really getting to me. I try to laugh it off but i'm really getting upset by it. My hair is thinning and receding (I'm a guy) compared to how much thicker it used to be. I don't like the lines i'm getting around my eyes when i smile, years ago my eyes looked so much brighter and full of life, now they just look dark with sadness :( I've lost weight but i'm trying to gain it again cause i think i looked better fatter, funny thing is when i was fatter i used to think i looked better thinner People say they don't believe i'm nearly 31, they think i'm like 22/23 but i just don't see it. I wish i did see it but all i see is how much i've aged.
How does everyone else cope with appearance of ageing? Obviously being a guy means i won't be dabbling in makeup lol
I'm 35 and a girl. I had to have all 4 front teeth removed because I couldnt afford fillings, and my hair is turning gray along the sides, so yes it bothers me but i reckon its just life and life happens,lol.
dont worry about getting older, think about how it will make you wiser :)
oh..I do have a partial for my front teeth so no one can tell Ive had them removed :)
4 front teeth removed sounds pretty horrible (((hugs))) My front tooth is crowned as for years i had a half a front tooth, which didn't help my confidence.
I try and look at it differently, but it's just hard. I wish i had that kind of thought like you, life happens, maybe i should just try and chillout. I know there is no going backwards in life, only forwards. I guess i just need to accept that humans age :/
I'm 27 and have noticed little lines around my eyes since I was about 20. I think it's easier to be more critical of your own face than anyone else's - cos you can look close up in the mirror and spot the tiniest imperfection (and we are all imperfect!), whereas someone else will just see a face, whether smiling or whatever is up to you...
I'm pretty sure pics of blokes in magazines etc are as touched up as the female ones too - don't try to conform to some unlikely idea of perfection, just try to be healthy and happy and this is much more attractive in real life.
Try to eat healthily/sensibly and exercise, am a bit worried by you saying you want to be fatter?! Trying to overeat to put on weight seems like a bad idea - unless you're actually underweight in which case healthy, regular meals are better than eating junk to get fat! If you're a healthy weight, enjoy it - beer bellies make men look older too!
Apparently having a very short haircut makes thinning hair less obvious (cos it just looks like it's cut short).
Could I also add: I have often really fancied older guys, because they seem to be more mature and interesting (I'm talking guys in their late thirties when I was early 20's). I have also found them very attractive physically following on from a general attraction. A bloke who turned out to be 45 actually was so stunning I gawped in the street, and I never normally do that! (we met by chance later and I was soooo embarassed lol)
My boyfriend was very overweight when we first met, which I am not keen on, but I was attracted by his sense of humour, kind heart and gorgeous smile. He was just great fun and interesting to be around. I became sexually attracted to him because I just found him so attractive overall.
People find me hard to age; if I'm having a good day and laughing and joking, they think I'm younger, if anyone sees me on a bad day I can pass for older :/
Being comfortable in your skin and nice to be around is much more attractive (whether for a potential partner or friends) than a 'perfect' face/body.
In short - it really is true that what's inside matters.
"I have a room for life at the home for the chronically groovy!" - Sgt Floyd Pepper
Weight wise, i guess i'm a healthy weight, i'm usually between 10 and 10 and a half. I just want to be fatter, as when i look back at videos and pictures, i look healthier and better looking than i am now. I'm just eating junk atm for a quick fix, and then when i'm at the weight i want, i'll control it so i stay the same weight. I did the same thing when i lost weight, just stopped myself from eating lots of food, thing is my body got used to it and ended up loosing more than i should have as my stomach got full quicker.
I keep my hair relatively short, not too short but it certainly isn't long. It's just sad though cause my hair was so thick, and the way i used to have my hair i just can't do anymore :(
I don't think i'll ever be happy with my appearance, i hated the way i looked years ago, now when i look back that their was nothing wrong with me whatsoever. I think i'm trying to get back what i had which i can't do. I keep telling myself, and others tell me, when i look back in 5 years i'll be saying the same thing about my appearance.
Urghhh i do my own head in sometimes i really do. Thankyou for your replies, mean a lot.
Please don't eat junk to get fatter - it does bad stuff to your insides, and all the associated problems that come with an unhealthy diet. People who are a 'healthy' weight still have these problems if they eat rubbish. A healthy diet will help you feel better.
Try to enjoy being yourself, doing hobbies etc, enjoying things you enjoy and trying not to focus on worries - I know it's easier said than done.
hugs...
"I have a room for life at the home for the chronically groovy!" - Sgt Floyd Pepper
My hair started receding when I was in sixth form - got the mickey taken out of me a lot, but nothing too harsh. At uni people didn't tease me - more variety I guess, then when I got to about 25 it had gone so thin and so far back I finally took my friends' advice and got a grade 2! :) One of the best things I've ever done, so much easier to deal with, takes no time to dry and I save tons of money on haircuts - I've got wet and dry clippers I use in the shower.
I'm my own worst enemy, my mind is sneaky! :) The trick that works for me is trying to find all the positive things about the stuff I worry about - I can usually find several and it picks me up.
I grew up in Dorset and have fond memories of the lovely countryside, hope you're enjoying it! :)
People say they don't believe i'm nearly 31, they think i'm like 22/23 but i just don't see it. I wish i did see it but all i see is how much i've aged.
