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Old 08-06-2012, 12:46 AM   #1
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Stress of being bisexual drives you to drink

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There's a stereotype that heavy drinking leads young people to explore other sexual options besides heterosexuality, but the reverse may actually be true — exploring other sexual identities is so stressful, it drives college kids to drink.

A study from the University of Missouri is suggesting that young adults who don't identify their sexual orientation as being either exclusively heterosexual or homosexual tend to misuse alcohol more frequently than people who have a firmly defined sexual orientation. The authors of the study speculate that college students who are coming out as bisexual, or experimenting with their sexual orientation, in college may be stressed out because of it, and as a result, are engaging in risky behaviors — most notably heavy drinking.


Amelia Talley, MU assistant professor of psychological sciences in the College of Arts and Science, observed that bisexuals and students whose sexual orientation were in flux reported the heaviest drinking and most negative consequences from alcohol use: "Those groups reported drinking to relieve anxiety and depression at higher rates than strictly heterosexual or homosexual individuals," noted Talley, "One possible explanation is that people who aren't either completely heterosexual or homosexual may feel stigmatized by both groups."


The study, which was published in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs, followed over 2,000 college students over the course of four years. The students were surveyed twice a year and asked about their sexual self-identification, attraction, and sexual behavior. Aside from those students who self-identified as being either exclusively homosexual or heterosexual, there were those who described themselves as "mostly homosexual," bisexual, and "mostly heterosexual". The survey also inquired into their drinking habits — including their reasons for drinking and any negative consequences experienced as a result of their alcohol use.
The results showed that gays and straights drink at roughly the same rate and that they tend to drink to enjoy social situations. But the other sexual minority groups tended to report more alcohol misuse. "This suggests that it may be the stressful process of developing one's sexual identity that contributes to problematic drinking," said Talley in a press release, "just as people in any difficult situation in life may turn to alcohol to alleviate stress."


Talley also discovered gender differences in sexual behaviors and sexual identity.
"Females showed the greatest degree of sexual orientation fluidity," the press release quoted Talley as saying. "They were able to admit a certain degree of attraction to the same gender without defining themselves as completely homosexual." She suggested that "women may be more open to admitting to same-sex attractions because women are more likely to be objectified as sexual objects in our culture; hence, women are accustomed to assessing the attractiveness of other women in comparison to themselves."


Males, on the other hand, are content to define themselves as being either straight or gay. Talley suggests this is because most men aren't aware that being "mostly straight" is a feasible option. She has found that even a small degree of sexual attraction to other men can make a man feel uncomfortable.


Ultimately, Talley hopes that these findings could be used to improve support programs for sexual minorities. Specifically, she would like to see psychological support systems improved for sexual minorities and help for young adults to avoid alcohol problems.


[Eurekalert.]



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Old 08-06-2012, 10:32 AM   #2
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Interesting stuff.



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Old 09-06-2012, 01:40 AM   #3
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Old 09-06-2012, 07:10 AM   #4
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Yeah, I read somewhere that bisexuals have a higher rate of self-harm than heterosexuals and homosexuals. What is the causal link though? For example, the study seems to be based on self-report of sexual orientation. The second to last paragraph shows some bias in the way that males report their sexuality.

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Old 09-06-2012, 11:05 PM   #5
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^How else would you assess sexual orientation though? The only two ways of assessing/categorising sexual orientation, in psychological literature at any rate, is either by self reported attraction to same/opposite/both sex(s), or by self report of the sex of past sexual partners. Self report is the only way in this kind of research.

As for the actual piece of research, it's very interesting. I was doing a bit of research into previous studies on that topic earlier for an essay, and suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety and addiction have all been noted to be more prevalent in bisexual people than in hetero and homosexuals, and more in prevalent in homosexuals than heteros. One of the (proposed) reasons is the "double discrimination" ("biphobia") that bisexuals experience from both heterosexuals and homosexuals. Interesting topic.

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Old 10-06-2012, 06:29 AM   #6
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How else would you assess sexual orientation though?
There are ways. Of course assessing as many people as where involved in the study that way would be cost prohibitive.

For example, I'd imagine that guys who fit in to a mostly heterosexual group of guys would tend to go with the flow and be less interested in explorer their androsexual side. Especially if their only mostly attracted to the opposite sex. Those who don't fit into such a group for various reasons including eccentricities would be more likely to be honest about their sexuality. No evidence to back that up, just something to think about.


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Old 10-06-2012, 07:02 AM   #7
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This would explain how my ex acted ... kind of. But I don't agree totally... what's so stressful about being 'bi'? If u wanna sleep with a girl or guy you can cause ur bi. I guess. How's that stressful? You aren't bound by gender like straight ppl. No offence but I view bi as people being unable to make decisions.

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Old 10-06-2012, 07:14 AM   #8
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Hmm that is pretty interesting. I am bisexual and although I don't particularly drink much at all, I do understand what they mean. I think what I have come across personally that can lead to bisexuals feeling kind of like the outcasts is because of the way we are viewed by the general public heterosexuals and homosexuals alike tend to see us as just experimenting or being ambiguous. It is like we have to fit into a certain role or we just don't get taken seriously.

For me personally I have struggled to figure out if I like men or women more and sometimes I feel like I am the weird one for not just liking one or the other. It gets stressful when you feel like you have to fit into a certain role. I do think with the stress it could lead to drinking but than again a lot of stressful life situations also lead to the same problem.

I remember when I was a kid and all I knew about bisexuals was what the people around me and the media portrayed them as which is sexual deviants. I was taught that bisexuals just liked having sex with everyone and that they didn't care if it was a man or woman. Of course once I got older and realized my sexual orientation I found out that what they were saying was just a lie but when you grow up with those things being taught to you it is hard to accept that you yourself will be seen like that by the world.

I would mostly agree with the idea that women are more open about saying that another woman is attractive where as guys don't particularly like admitting if they find another man good looking. I think a lot of that has to do with the way the world views homosexual relationships. I mean for women we can say another woman is hot and no one would think you were a lesbian but if a guy says he thinks another man is good looking than everyone automatically thinks they are homosexual. The problem is how the world can be a very un-accepting place for people who don't exactly fit the mold they are supposedly meant to. I think the way bisexuals are portrayed plays a big role in feeling the need to be either homosexual or heterosexual.

On the other hand from my experience when you come out as bisexual it is accepted a bit better than being homosexual. My mom would probably have freaked out if I told her I was a lesbian but when I told her I was bisexual she wasn't really happy but she also still holds out hope I will end up with a guy (in fact she never brings up my attraction to girls at all).

All in all I just think being bisexual can be extremely stressful and a confusing time in your life so it can lead to all kinds of things like drinking. We all constantly feel like we are supposed to be a certain way and when we aren't we worry and stress over it and it can lead to unhealthy ways of coping.



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Old 10-06-2012, 07:20 AM   #9
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This would explain how my ex acted ... kind of. But I don't agree totally... what's so stressful about being 'bi'? If u wanna sleep with a girl or guy you can cause ur bi. I guess. How's that stressful? You aren't bound by gender like straight ppl. No offence but I view bi as people being unable to make decisions.

Well I can't speak for every bisexual person so I will speak for myself. Personally for me it isn't about making a decision I mean I like men and women, I am attracted to both, it isn't like you can just say oh well I like woman more and be done with it. If you are attracted to both genders it isn't something you can make a decision about. Their are some bisexuals who either lean more towards men or women but they still hold an attraction for both genders, in the end it depends on who you love enough to stay with and that has nothing to do with their gender. Of course this is just my opinion and I am sure others may not agree with me but to each their own.



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Old 10-06-2012, 10:48 AM   #10
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Also fMRI can be used to detect arousal.

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Old 10-06-2012, 07:45 PM   #11
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I've personally never felt stressed due to my bisexuality. I don't feel the need to let people know I'm bisexual. People I trust know and that is fine with me. So, even if I understand that the research may be true for some people, I don't think it's true in all cases. I've never felt negatively about my bisexuality because it's not much of a big deal for me if that makes any sense.



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Old 11-06-2012, 09:37 AM   #12
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Well I can't speak for every bisexual person so I will speak for myself. Personally for me it isn't about making a decision I mean I like men and women, I am attracted to both, it isn't like you can just say oh well I like woman more and be done with it. If you are attracted to both genders it isn't something you can make a decision about. Their are some bisexuals who either lean more towards men or women but they still hold an attraction for both genders, in the end it depends on who you love enough to stay with and that has nothing to do with their gender. Of course this is just my opinion and I am sure others may not agree with me but to each their own.
This.
It's not about being indecisive, i'd say more open minded, in the fact, you love someone for who they are. not their gender. You can't help who you fall in love with.

This is interesting though and i guess in a sense and i can understand why this maybe true.



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Old 28-10-2012, 01:23 AM   #13
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That's strange - I never really felt stressed due to being bisexual. I guess this might be because I always knew I was bi; I never really experimented before just figuring it out. I was about 13 when I started having feelings for men and women, and it took me years after that to have experiences with both - but my intrinsic inclinations proved to be correct because my orientation did not fluctuate after experimenting.

Interesting study though.

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