Guys can and do have ED's, I know a few who come to a recovery group I also attend. Sometimes people, even people who you would hope to understand don't, but this doesn't mean you wont find someone who can understand and if not, is willing to make the effort to understand what they don't know initially.
It is very understandable that you feel rejected and angry with them. Being told to 'man up' over a mental illness is particularly cruel when you have reached out in faith that someone you trusted will be kind and compassionate and listen. Feel free to talk on here though, where I am sure there are an abundance of people who understand. Eating disorders are never gender specific so even if you only meet a handful of people on here who are male, I am sure you will relate with anyone who has an eating disorder.
I am not sure what best to suggest if I'm honest, because it can be hard to find the right person at first, however could you try one of the GP's in your Doctors with the veiw that if one is rubbish, you can always see another. It might help to ring up and ask the receptionist whom of the GP's in the practice specialises in mental health because often there is someone who deals more with mental health than the other GPs of the practice or who has more experiance, for example.
I would, if you feel ready, tell your friends they've dissapointed you and ask them to look on the beat site, I am sure they have an article designed to 'dispell the myths' of ED's, one of which is that men don't suffer from ED's.
I hope you can find someone to talk to but in the mean time, please use RYL to get support. You mention restricting and loosing weight, is there any way you could slow down, better still, halt this process? Maybe setting meal times or adding snacks in, having 5 smaller meals instead of 3 big ones if feeling full is hard?
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