Contains abuse - He says what he's doing to me isn't 'wrong.'
Of course I know it is wrong. I mean, normal people don't half drown you in the sink then **** you because you smashed a plate by accident do they? Well I used to think that. But idk.
He's in such a high position of authority, the idea of anyone believing me is ridiculous in itself, but right now I'm just trying to believe myself. He is so intelligent, clever, everyone respects him, he instructs maths in one of the most prestigious Universities in the country...But the thing is, the stuff he says sort of makes sense.
"Right and wrong are merely conventions, so why should I abide by them when I know I'm capable of things much more personally beneficial? I just follow my instincts. Maybe you're worthless because you don't."
"They are not your friends you ****ing idiot. You have no friends. They are just passing the time in a fashion that causes them the least irritation and the most enjoyment. You have to make friends to keep them. People have to see something that benefits them in you."
"There’s nothing wrong with what I'm doing, unless you believe there to be something wrong with what I'm doing. Keep it in mind, you’re useless. And I don’t think any kind of pre-meditation would reflect what would happen to you if I lose control."
I'm trying to fight what he is saying in my mind, but he's making me think like him and now all I can do is submit. I'm just a shell of who I was anyway.
I'm guessing you and him are dating? Either way, though, he definitely should NOT be treating you this way or making you feel the way you do. None of what he is telling you is true. I really do think you need to go to the Police and tell your parents or someone else that you can trust so that you can get out of this abusive situation. Yes, there may be a couple of people who aren't going to believe you, but you'll be surprised by how many actually will. People do care about you and will want to do whatever they can to make sure you are safe and happy. I do hope you think about going to someone to get help. Take care and stay safe :)
I'm guessing you and him are dating? Either way, though, he definitely should NOT be treating you this way or making you feel the way you do. None of what he is telling you is true. I really do think you need to go to the Police and tell your parents or someone else that you can trust so that you can get out of this abusive situation. Yes, there may be a couple of people who aren't going to believe you, but you'll be surprised by how many actually will. People do care about you and will want to do whatever they can to make sure you are safe and happy. I do hope you think about going to someone to get help. Take care and stay safe :)
Hahaha he's my fucking Uncle. I live with him and his son, as I am studying at the same University he lectures at.
ok, right off the bat... NO, it is NOT okay at all for him to be treating you this way...
also, it sounds like alot of the big words are covering up what he is really saying and making them sound more beleivable... in plain english, he has said
-"Right and wrong aren't real things. People have made them up and just follow them like sheep. Why should I just follow them when I can do more for myself at the expense of everyone else? Maybe you are worthless because you respect others".... pretty clearly, he is justifying his own bad behavior and saying that everyone should be manipulative for their own good... I don't think that society would have gotten this far if everyone took his advice there.
-"They aren't your friends. They are only spending time with you because you don't annoy them like other people do and because they really enjoy spending time with you. You have to make friends to keep them" (I can't figure out what this sentence even means, sorry) "People will only spend time with you and value you if they are able to use you for their own benefit"...
well, it sounds to me like he said you didn't have friends. then defined what a friend is, maybe not a best friend, but a friend, and said that your so called not friends are spending time with you for the exact reasons that friendship comprises of. he totally contradicted himself. it makes no sense. then, at the end, he said that people never have true friendships because they only care about people who they can use and manipulate to benefit themselves. thats just not true.
-"There is nothing wrong with what I'm doing to you if you believe me when i say that what i'm doing to you is ok. Keep in mind, you're powerless. Nothing I could plan to do would be as bad as what I would do to you if I lost control"
so... the first sentence again doesn't make much sense. he says that if you agree with what he is doing, then it is ok for him to do it. which it isn't. but confuses you so that you feel like he is right. second sentence is to try and convince you that he is superior to you. third sentence is an outright threat.
honestly, i think that you need to get away from living there quickly. from what he has said, it sounds like he has little to no respect for other human beings. it sounds like things are really bad and dangerous already, and like they are going to escalate. do you have any other places you could live?
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The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
It is not right for anyone to make you feel the way that he does. It is not right for anyone to ever put their hands on you for any reason. He says the things that he says to try to confuse you into believing that he has that authority, but no one does. He is trying to get you away from your friends because he knows that what he is doing is wrong and if any of them told he would be in deep trouble. He says what he knows will affect you. You are strong and you are worth a happy and safe life. You're much stronger than he is...he can't even control himself long enough not to lash out at you..and he knows it. Idk what you have to do, but you need to let someone know what is going on and get out of there. Keep telling until someone believes you. I think you'd be surprised at how many people would believe your story. It's your life, and you deserve better.
"So take heart, His love leads us through the night." <3
