Want to stop seeing my psych?

[Kimaru]

I'm considering stopping going to my psych, I've been seeing her for months but nothing has changed. I haven't been able to make any progress in dealing with my anxiety or depression and definitely not my self harm. I've been seeing her for months and we don't meet that often, once a month for about an hour or so. She keeps just referring me to recreation therapists and youth mental health programs. I can't really keep up with these because of my problem with phones so its all useless in the end.

I don't know if it's just the "I'm sick and want to get sicker" part of me that wants this or if its an actual rational decision. I find she just tells me things I already know, like "try red marker instead of cutting" and "only you can dig yourself out of this hole" . I kind of get the feeling that she's been trying to get rid of me anyways. I'm just not looking forward to dealing with any consequences I'll have to deal with if I do stop going. Everyone will be on my back about it.

I'm kind of stuck here, I don't really want to go anymore but it's kind of a safety net and it keeps people off my back about things. Would it be a bad idea to stop seeing my psych or would in be okay?

[finding_reason]

Can I ask is she a psychiatrist or psychologist? I'm wondering if the opposite would offer a different outlook? I can relate to what you are experiencing, but have learned throughout the years that unless you want to change it isn't going to happen, and it has to be more than just "wanting to change thoughts, behaviours have follow too".

You mentioned you don't have many appointments is there an option of changing this? Also if you find that there are barriers to accessing these programs, can you talk about these with your psych and work out other options?

If you stopped seeing her what would be your plan for yourself and your work towards recovery (in what form that looks like for you), what sort of support network would you have in your life? You mentioned that people would be on your back, are they people that you could talk about what is happening and explain that you don't think this is working.

I think treatment and intervention needs to be integrated into recovery pathways when it's warranted, and sometimes it just might not be the right time. I started treatment because I was bad too by my parents and I didn't talk for ages, but my therapist stuck with me, and I learned how to trust her and eventually realised that it was a chance for change, and it took a lot of work but it was an opportunity to start taking control back and that felt amazing. Everyone is different, I guess it's not a decision to make lightly, just think about the pros and cons, and perhaps integrate others viewpoints into your consideration as well. Best of luck.

[WinterSparkles]

I agree with everything finding reason's said, really.

Sometimes people respond differently to different people/treatments. Maybe you could talk to your psych and tell her that you're not finding the sessions to be useful? She could either change her approach with you, or refer you to a different person.

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[Patch.]

Hi

At the moment, I would advice you to try and stick with it at the moment. I have been seeing my current psychiatrist for more than 18 months and I am getting referred to a different team. Previous to my current psych, I saw a therapist for a year. I have been on weekly appointments, medication etc for 18 months, and I still struggle. Recovery doesn't come easily unfortunately. if you are unhappy with your psych can you find another one?
The only reason why I am switching is because of my age - adolescent to adult service transfer is looong over due. But maybe you'll click better with someone else. Don't give up, getting better is possible.

PM if you need to talk

[Kimaru]

She didn't show up to my appointment today, I sat in the waiting room for an hour and a half but she never showed. I only see her about once every 4 weeks and was planning on telling her that I want to maybe change the way we've been doing things and give it another try.

Now I'm trying to decide whether I should make another appointment or not. I'm kind of stuck now because if I do want to make another appointment I'll have to call them...my mom already said I have to call them myself, she won't do it for me...

I'm not really sure I really want to "recover" yet anyways, I'm haven't been able to stop cutting. Maybe I should just wait until I feel ready to put in the effort later instead of wasting people's time now.

[Ballerina123]

Even if you didn't want to leave I would still be calling up and asking why she just left you sitting there.

I think it is clear that you don't want to go back. If so you should tell. What is the point in continuing if it is just wasting both or your times?