Yeah I know that feeling, It's awful so I just ask them if they have their medical certificates and licenses on their walls, they seem to shut up after you make them feel really small and stupid, I'm not telling you to do that of course I'm just telling how I deal with them
I find it really difficult too, especially people's lack of understanding at times. I don't know if we are talking about the same thing because I'm not sure if you mean, they don't think you are capable when you are. However for me sometimes people like my Mum just think I can cope with everything because I am 22 and doesn't realise the impact my mental health is having, even though she is fully aware of my diagnoses.
I know many people that have made judgements of what I am or am not capable of when they are not really qualified to, or are working from their own presumptions and not the actual facts (i.e. they didn't check with me first). It is sadly quite common and so I am sorry to hear you have found it frustrating and that it has lowered your mood.
I sometimes find it is worth asking what gave the people the impression they have - as this enables you to see if it is infact possible they are right, or to be able to then state your case.
Do remember that unless they are looking to get you sectioned, or are putting forward a case for power of attorney (in which they would have to legally prove you are not capable due to mental illness - for example with finances) they have no power over you and can't stop you doing something if you really want to.
It is up to you if you want to argue your point - in my experience it is about choosing your battles wisely and knowing when to just let it go, and when you need to get your point across. It is never easy though, unfortunately.
Be gentle with yourself and try not to let it get you down too much. If it comes down to it and they have said you can't do something you know you can, then so long as it is safe to do so, prove them wrong.
Roiben x
If the Human brain were so simple that we could understand it, we would be so simple that we wouldn't.
Last night, apparently my Mom had watched some show on criminally insane individuals who killed their children. She told me I shouldn't have kids, because I may be mentally incapable....My mom knows knows that more than anything in the world, I want to be a mommy. It just really upset me, because those shows are so stigmatizing in the first place....
I don't see why I would be incapable....yeah, I may hurt myself, but I could never hurt anyone else. My SH was part of her argument as to why I should not "be allowed" to have children.
And, unrelated, My landlord called my boss (long story) and said I was incapable of owning/caring for a pet.....
Very frustrating, but I'm feeling better today.
Thanks everyone!
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"Burn the land and boil the sea, you can't take the sky from me......<3
Why on earth did your landlord call your boss? That is none of his business...
As to your Mum, she has no right to make that judgement and certainly not based on one stigmatised tv programme (such shows should be banned in my eyes). Do hold on to the fact that she is wrong, and that she also has no means to make that judgement. When it comes to it, you can discuss it with your care team - There is support available and I see no reason for you to not be fine with it. In short, as much as it hurt to hear her say it, try not to take it to heart and ignore her.
Glad to hear you are feeling better.
Roiben x
If the Human brain were so simple that we could understand it, we would be so simple that we wouldn't.
