Really messed up. Need help/advice.

[Elphiero]

Okay,

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and lately things have been getting really rough. I'm so paranoid of him cheating since that's why my ex-fiance did. I constantly stress out about it and have really high anxiety about it.

Another issue is that he wants to move to Pennsylvania which is across the country from me. He said he was over the issue and he would stay here for me, but now he wants to go visit a friend and I am terrified he's going to stay and not come back.

The root of my problem is that I love him and I'm terrified of losing him and being alone.

What do I do? We've talked this stuff out to death and he keeps assuring me he won't cheat or move, but for some reason I can't get it through my thick skull. I'm terrified and its all I think about most of the time. I really need support/advice/help.

Thanks...

[MrsNutkin]

I can totally understand that and I think it's natural if you've loved and then lost someone to feel like this. Is there some way you can speak to him about it?

[little_paws]

I understand how you feel. I have been with my boy for almost five years now and he has never once cheated on me yet I am still paranoid about it.

It would be tough when he is away but it might be good for you both because you are showing him that you trust him. I know its hard and you have talked about it with him but you just need to keep reminding yourself he won't cheat. Write it on post it notes and stick them all over the house if you need to lol.