Unahappy marriage

Nocebo · 15-12-2011, 12:52 AM

In my second marriage -unhappy for a while now. I wonder how I get myself into these situations. I never meant to! 3 children, 3 dads...2 are complete chocolate teapots!

Self harm is getting worse again, after quite aa long break. I have fallen for a long-term friend who I havnt seen for many years, but who I have been in contact with and text etc on a daily basis (we are both fully aware of how the other one feels) its very complicated and I'm so confused about so many things

staceyrawrcakes · 15-12-2011, 01:50 AM

What is it about the marriage that makes you unhappy if you don't mind me asking? No one means to get themselves into any bad situation or anything that makes them unhappy so try not to beat yourself up about it :)
I know it's easy for me to say but I know it's so hard to do but if you're not happy with the relationship, maybe it's best to leave it. I don't know what's gone on obviously but it has to be better than staying in the relationship.
Sorry I don't have much to say, my PM box is open though if you want to talk :)

Mandimoo · 15-12-2011, 02:59 PM

I would suggest if you do leave the marriage to have a complete break from men and allow yourself time to get your head together before embarking on the next relationship x

Nocebo · 15-12-2011, 09:32 PM

Yes, I need to separate one situation fromt he other, which is easy is a way as my friend lives so far away and we have no means of seeing each other for quite some time! Its just a feeling, a confusing one that I cant help. I'm not sure what it means. But its there.

Our marriage has a breakdown of communication. We've been through a lot recently and seem to be quite negative towards one another. Its hard to help someone else when you feel so bad yourself. We both seem to have that opinion and its not helpful to either one of us - or our relationship.