My bro and me :(

[Liriel]

I don't know where to start, all I know is I need to scream out! I feel like trashing the place up right now.

My brother is 35, still lives with our parents, doesn't work. All he does is sit in his room playing online. He rarely speaks to any of us, even when asked a direct question. When he does speak it's sometimes gibberish, random words that don't make sense. He can also get very aggressive when confronted about his behaviour so we all walk on eggshells around him.

I come and stay with parents most weeks for a couple of days (I don't work and normally live with my boyfriend's parents) but sometimes it's unbearable, he's destroying one of my few remaining 'safe' places, well the only one left I think :(

He shouted at me this morning, a random word that I didn't quite catch but sounded like 'insane'!.

What's going on with him? Why does he hate us all??? It's killing me. I love my brother and want to help him but I feel powerless to do anything. If I try asking him what;'s wrong he is evasive and talks gibberish or doesn;'t answer at all! He's a grown man so we can't force him to do anything he doesn't want to, although I think we're all too scared to confront this for fear of what he might do. He seems to have a lot of pent up aggression towards us.

He hates us and it's breaking my heart ....

Everywhere is so ****, I have nowhere to go, got so much tension, anxiety I feel I need to escape somewhere, but also thinking SH is an escape too, at least then I could have a good sleep without nightmares ....

Any advice anyone? Anyone else had probs like this with loved ones?

[Merc]

To the question of experience with this type of thing, yes, my sister. But not so extreme.
I can hear just how distressing this is for you.
Has he ever been diagnosed/seen a doc about his behaviour? Was he like this in childhood?
Is there anyone who he listens to?
Im sorry, head isnt great so sorry if this useless...

[Liriel]

Thanks - not useless at all

I think he has had some interactions with doctors, a number of years ago, but because of the lack of communication I have no idea whether he's been diagnosed with anything or had any treatment.

He has a friend who he has a lot of respect for, I may try and broach the subject with him. I think something needs to happen soon before we all fall apart.

I'm oversensitive at the moment too so that doesn't help, struggling with thoughts of escape/SH mega frustration at how meaningless my life has become .... must ... fight .... it ..... lol

Thanks for your comments and suggestions :)

[Merc]

Your welcome :o).
Do you have any support? A couns./therapist/psych/etc?
I can relate to how life can become meaningless/overwhelming...has something specific (other than yr brother)happened to cause you to feel like this?
Does anyone else know how you are feeling?
Because it sounds like you could do with some support about all this.
I think speaking to his friend is a really great idea. I can understand that it might feel awkward so perhaps having something written out/a plan of what you want to say might help...it's hard sometimes when you're 'put on the spot'.
Even if he won't accept couns., or medical intervention of some sort, perhaps you and your parents could look into a family couns. program?
It sounds like a very difficult, fear-invoking environment.
xx