I don't seem to have a reason to stop, i'd like a reason, but i just don't seem to have one. Yes i'd like to stop, but with no reason not to, makes it very hard. Maybe i just very little will power, i dunno.
So what is everybody else's reasons to stop? Curious.
I don't have a reason really.
People will probably think I'm wrong, but if I were dating someone, maybe that would be my reason. But that sort of thing doesn't happen to me...
Guess I have a few reasons, but even at that I'm shaky with it >.< So suppose my reasons are-
Not having to cover up/hide cuts or scars
Not being found out
Lessen the chances of being sent to the hospital
So I don't disappoint my dad
To not be a bad influence on my sister (or really, anyone for that matter)
Sorta for someone who's trying to get me to stop
Maybe a few more here and there, but my biggest reason would be for God, as I am a Christian. It's also the one I struggle with most, since I have such a hard time with concepts such as love... which would probably help a lot if I accepted it.
I'm sure you can find something to stop for :) Think there was a thread on here a while back about reasons to quit? It's difficult, but I know you can recover from this. Good luck, and hope you're doing alright *hugs*
Last edited by lonely_hope : 18-09-2011 at 03:56 AM.
Reason: found thread
"God take me, because I hate me" -Underoath
We are male and female. We are artists, athletes, and students. We have depression, PTSD, eating disorders, bipolar disorder, or maybe no diagnosis at all. Some of us were abused, some not. We come from all walks of life and can be any age. We are every race or religion that you can think of. Our common link is this: We are in pain. We self-injure. And we are not freaks.
I feel kind of like you right now, except I'm not trying enough because of my lack of a reason. But some reasons I do kind of have floating around in the back of my mind are:
- to not hurt and disappoint my parents
- to not have to hide things and be so secretive
- to make my roommate proud of me
I'm sure you'll find your own meaningful reason for stopping and I wish you the best of luck through your recovery.
*Hugs*
"It's not a dream anymore. It's worth fighting for."
"Well, if it's not real you can't hold it in your hands
You can't feel it with your heart
And I won't believe it.
But if it's true
You can see it with your eyes
Oh, even in the dark
And that's where I want to be, yeah" - Paramore
so i can build my self confidence
so i can learn to not tear myself apart, physically, but evenutally emotionally
so that my parents feel secure
so that i'm not perpetuating being ill
so that i don't have to hide all the time
sounds a bit stupid... but so that i can take a shower and have it feel good, not sting from soap on raw skin...
this is my magical medicine cabinet. Left to right they contain: courage, hope, calmness, and strength.
The magical part: They NEVER run out, so borrow some any time you want.
-So that I don't have to hide things all the time, especially since I hate lying or just not being myself.
-So I don't have to keep things covered.
-So I don't disappoint my parents
-So I don't have scars
-So I can wear a bikini like I used to, instead of surf shorts. I would feel so much better about myself.
-My little sister, she doesn't know what I've done and I want to keep it that way... she's my world.
-My boyfriend... he knows I used to but not how badly or how much... I don't want to go back to it
-I'm the captain of the girls cross country team, and a lot of girls look up to me
-I told my one friend a long time ago I would, and I've hurt her because of it
-I'm stronger than what I think I am
-etc...
You're beautiful (guy or girl), and you don't want to scar up that body of yours.
Your family, i'm not sure whether you're close to them or not, but i'm sure they still love you. As well as all your friends, and the people you meet in the future.
Having to hide things are hard, and if you stop you don't have to anymore, you may be embarrassed about the scars, but eventually and hopefully they will fade. If not, maybe there is a cream.
Your future family..if you don't have one as of right now. What would your kids think if they saw the scars or caught you self harming. And you're partner, doesn't it hurt you to know you're hurting them too?
You still have a long time to live, if you cut too deep that could be the end of it. You might think, well I am thinking of suicide, but if you REALLY wanted it you would have gone through with it already (thank god you didn't), and if you have tried don't you think there is a reason why you didn't succeed?
You're stronger than the pain, and to all the people who think you're weak wouldn't it be amazing to prove them all wrong?
There are so many reasons to stop, you just have to find the most important reason to and stick to it. I believe in you, good luck
Everybody has some good reasons to stop, looking through that list i guess the only one that stands out for me is future family. I don't want my kid/kids to have the same problem as myself.
Seems to be a lot about family, how family perceive it. I think i'm too selfish to give up for family, has to be for me but i still haven't found any. Maybe i'm just not ready to stop just yet, or is that just an excuse not to try? I dunno, hmmm.
Thank you for kind words
best reason to stop is to find yourself. SI is a coping thing which means issues are not resolved and the real you goes undiscovered - the little girl you used to be and that got lost in the confusion etc
