how to learn healthy pride in the self?

[Stellata]

How does one learn how to be proud of one's achievements without 'needing' to feel 'one up' on others?

For example - how to be proud of myself for taking responsibility for something, without the 'need' to think 'I took responsibility, but no one else did. I'm better!'

I know it comes from profound low self esteem and lack of praise and encouragement when I was growing up. That I don't feel worthy of existing unless I'm 'better' at some things because underneath I feel so utterly worthless. I try to change it, but I trip myself up on it all the time.

[ASkatersDream...]

tbh though theres nothing wrong in doing what your doing.

I always think i'm one up on people when I can do somthing better which they cant do. There's nothing wrong with it at all :)

As long as you dont brag about it to there face/others

[pea soup]

Hi Katie,

I think for you, just being proud of something you did is GREAT! I don't think analyzing it any further will do much good. Just try and be happy that you did something that truly made you feel proud of yourself!

I know back in school, when I made the highest grades or the highest grade in class, etc....I always felt proud and it did have to do with the fact that I did better than everyone else. I think it's just competitive nature and nothing to worry about :)

loves.
xxxxx

[Stellata]

Thank you both.

I might add some more tomorrow. Too exhausted right now.