I'm scared of doing things because of the SH scars on my arms.
All the 'normal' things come into this such as swimming or wearing short sleves around family. But i find myself getting scared of having scars on show if im on my own in public.
I'm terrified of being unwell or having to go to the doctors incase they have to take blood ( and in turn see my arm ).
I know that at the end of the day, that worst that will happen is my parents will find out. But i can't seem to calm my nerves or forget about it.
I never show my scars, im to self conscious, i never wear short sleeves i dont go swimming any more, only time people see them is if i need medical attention, so i can understand what your feeling, i wish there was more i could say, but just letting you know your not on your own x x
I can relate. It is swimming I miss the most. My Mum knows about my self harm so it isn't that that stops me but I feel so self conscious and embarrassed. I worry about people's reactions. It's very difficult.
I used to be really self-conscious of my scars that are on my wrists from self-harming, and it was only until my friends found out that I self-harm that I started to not be as aware of them. However, I have found that concealer works really well for trying to cover up scars, and when you're swimming people don't generally see your hands that often, making it easier to hide the scars. My friend used to have really bad scars on her arms, until she started to use an ointment called BioOil. It's available from most supermarkets, and although it turns the scars really red for a couple of days, but after that they practically vanish, and you can barely see them anymore. If you want a quick relief from hiding the scars, I would recommend putting concealer on them, but for long-term relief, find an ointment that gets rid of scars and blemishes :)
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i think thats something that alot of people struggle with. i don't have scars on my arms, but do in other places that made finding a swimsuit difficult at times.... and have you ever thought of a swimshirt? my parents always made my brothers and i wear them to avoid sunburn, but they are long sleeved and could cover your arms.
i agree with what was said about people not noticing when you're swimming, but i think that that applies on land as well. if your scars aren't huge or really red or raised, often they aren't nearly as noticable as you think. a bit like when you feel super self concious cause of a pimple and it feels as though everyone is staring at it and judging, but in reality nobody even noticed, much less thought anything of it
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I can totally relate to this, like tig the thing i miss the most is swimming as i loved it. I too have scars on my arms and in other places so i know what its like. In the last 3 years i have only been swimming once and that was when i was aboard and i actually swam in my shorts and a t-shirt for that really.
I'm constantly having to make excuses of why I can't attend events, like going swimming with my little sisters, as my family don't know about my scars.
My family are all going on holiday to Egypt together soon, but I've had to say I don't want to come...which is really not true, but I don't know how I'll be able to wear long sleeves for two weeks, or come up with enough excuses not go swimming! :(
I was in an island of spain i cant remember it , two winters ago it was boiling my mum was like ' Lauren take your t-shirt of and get some sun on you' I was like ( I thought this was very good , as i thought on my feet) ' But i always get sun burnt really badly on my shoulders and i don't want that to happen this year' But it is hard and sad that we cant do what we like as people may judge us etc.
Thankyou for all the replies everyone. I've used Bio-oil for a little while in the past, so my scars are completly white. I quite like the way you viewed it like a pimple, PassedExpectations.
