I am 21, I live at home and have BPD but my parents don't seem to care about mental health. I work for my parents too so that makes life and work quite hard and the lines are incredibly blurred.
Anyway the problem is my mum KEEPS pressuring me to learn to drive etc and she keeps getting everyone else involved.
If and when I want to learn to drive, I should be able to choose the time!!
But she keeps saying she will help pay for the car or insurance but she doesn't get it!!
First off I love spending all my money on my DVDs, games, books etc - I don't want to spend it all on stupid rent or car tax or insurance. ****s sake!!
"John, being brave is going where no man has gone before and with Lizzy Stark, that is NOT what you'll be doing!" - Aunt Polly.
“I told him I was going to betray you, and betray Lyra, and he believed me because I was corrupt and full of wickedness; he looked so deep I felt sure he'd see the truth. But I lied too well. I was lying with every nerve and fiber and everything I'd ever done...I wanted him to find no good in me, and he didn't. There is none.”
Firstly, depending on your BPD and how bad it is, then you may not be able to drive anyway. The DVLA do revoke licences in terms of mh problems or decide not to give one.
I would speak to a medical professional (preferably your psych if you have one) before applying for the provisional licence. They can tell you if you can or cannot drive. If you cant, then they should help you apply (by writing a supporting letter) for a bus pass.
As for that, if you cant drive, I would then talk to your mother. If you are classified as medically unfit, then that may shut her up.
Last edited by not_so_insig : 15-07-2011 at 09:40 PM.
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"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
I know :( and I mean I do pay my parents rent - but part of me just doesn't want to get older - I would rather go back to being a kid.
"John, being brave is going where no man has gone before and with Lizzy Stark, that is NOT what you'll be doing!" - Aunt Polly.
“I told him I was going to betray you, and betray Lyra, and he believed me because I was corrupt and full of wickedness; he looked so deep I felt sure he'd see the truth. But I lied too well. I was lying with every nerve and fiber and everything I'd ever done...I wanted him to find no good in me, and he didn't. There is none.”
The car issue aside, at some point in your life you'll have to pay rent.
I missed that. I totally agree. Even if you are able to move out and are able to claim housing benefit, some of your money will go on electric, water and gas bills. Plus TV licence and probably the internet. There is no way you will be able to spend all of your money once you move out on games etc. There is always gonna be bills and there will be serious consequences if you dont pay.
I hate if this sounds like I am agreeing with your mum, but if you are earning some money (whether it be a job or benefits), some of it should go to your mum. Even if it is £10 a week (may be more, depending on what you and your mum both agree upon), it will prepare you for later life. At some point you will be moving out and it wont be so much of a shock to your system.
Wannabe CPN : -)
"He who is tired of Weird Al is tired of life." - Homer Simpson "I hear those voices that will not be drowned" Sanity is a nasty disease. The world would be a happier place without it. - Rilic
RIP Kat 4th July 1987- 11th June 2013
I'm not adversed to paying rent - I give her £370 a month.
"John, being brave is going where no man has gone before and with Lizzy Stark, that is NOT what you'll be doing!" - Aunt Polly.
“I told him I was going to betray you, and betray Lyra, and he believed me because I was corrupt and full of wickedness; he looked so deep I felt sure he'd see the truth. But I lied too well. I was lying with every nerve and fiber and everything I'd ever done...I wanted him to find no good in me, and he didn't. There is none.”
..... I would love to have parents that encourage me to drive. Mine have told me I shouldn't drive and actively encourage me not to.
£370 is a fair amount to pay, but is still a lot less than a normal household bills. Maybe save for something larger - to show your Mum that you can chose to spend in a different way and that it is just that you do not want to learn to drive just yet.
Roiben x
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