Loaded Guns...visit cut short..not my fault this time..
My visit with Keith was cut short by 3 days :((((
My stepdad for SOME reason unknown to everyone got very drunk last night and pulled a loaded gun. no one could get it away from him and he could barely walk from being so drunk. He never does this and its still a mystery as to why he did it.
We were all scared and so my mom, brother, me, and Keith loaded up in mom's car and went to my stepbrother's house to see if he could come and help. it was late and he didnt come to the door. so we were driving around in our pajamas and everyone was upset and crying. my brother finally said that we would have to call the police. so we did.
we parked down the road and the officer stopped and talked to us. he told that dispatch would call us when it was ok to go back. after we got back the officer had found the gun and confiscated it. he told us that he should be charged with aggravated assault because he put our lives in danger with a loaded gun. BUT, they would also take him to jail to sober up and then they would call crisis to evaluate him because he had mentioned suicide to the officers. two officers had to carry him out because he couldnt walk.
we all left mom's house at 6am this morning to avoid any confrontation with my stepdad's family.
we went to my grandma's house and Kelly came to take me home. Keith went to sister's and is going back home a day early. we got to spend this morning together talking,and he was ok as can be expected. he said he would never go back to mom's house. he was terrified last night. and even after my stepdad was gone, Keith wouldnt go into a room without me and followed me everywhere i went. he even slept with me and he hasnt done that in ages. I feel SOOO sorry for him. and also my mom. she is just in a trance. she doesnt know what's going to happen.
my stepdad was released today and mom spoke with him. he is really angry that he went to jail. he think mom put him there but she didnt!! the officers said they had no choice because he was a danger to himself and us.
she is going back home on thursday to talk to him and figure out what they are going to do concerning their marriage.
it has been just horrible. i apologized over and over to Keith. He was so sweet to me. He said that we had a really good time up until then, and we had been there for three days and were able to celebrate his bday and my brother taught him how to ride the 4 wheeler, and went swimming in the lake. plus a movie and just time hanging out.
He left me with a smile and that was so nice. im worried about him though. I hope he can just try to put this out of his mind or deal with it somehow. he has never been through anything like that before.
anyhow...im a wreck but im making it. just needed to talk.
thanks.
Aside from the disaster, what was the rest of the time with Keith like?
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Wow! Poor you and poor Keith! I think you all did the right thing though calling the police.
The photos look like you had a fantastic time together! It is so weird to see 'kids' that age, in some ways Keith looks so grown up and in others he still looks like a child (off topic, sorry). I am sure he will deal with it just fine, he can always talk to you or your Aunt or whoever if he needs to. I'm so pleased the first few days went so well. Hold onto that hun x
you did what you could to protect your child it sucks that he had to go home early but he was glad you were there when it happened. love you rach, so sorry it all happened.
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but aside from all that...we had an awesome time. My Mom and I were on great terms and my brother even hung out with us alot :)
we had a party for Keith and my sister and her husband came, and my grandma and uncle. we made a cookie cake for him since they're his favorites.
my brother grilled hamburgers and hotdogs for the party and it was perfect :)
went and saw a movie...Keith was more interested in playing his playstation 3 games than anything else,lol. but he did go boating and swimming in the lake. we bought alot of fireworks that we were going to do since he wasnt here on the 4th plus kelly and kaleb were going to be staying tonight and kaleb would have liked them also. we didnt get to do them though since we had to leave.
also, we had bunches of fun just being together. Keith is at the age where I understand his sense of humor and he understands mine...and we really like to prank each other :) and we could just banter back and forth all day with silly comebacks for each other. I actually love the age he's at.
I know our visit was simply great up until then. I know I should be ecstatic about that and I am about that part. but I am so overwhelmed right now. Keith will never be able to go back to my mom's. he said he would always be too afraid, plus I would never want him going back there because the memory of that is still very scary, even to me. my mom's always felt safe to me and i liked going there plus Mom may even be divorcing him or him her...who knows...
I'm worried about my mom. I've spoken with her a few times since I came home and she is in a trance...you can hear it in her voice.
Anyhow...I hurt myself last night...nothing major at all but still freaking stupid. I have control this morning so I will be ok concerning harming.
mom went this morning to buy deodorant and things since she didnt have time to pack them and her credit card didnt work...that bastard had it cut off...my sister's husband is a manager at wal-mart so he was there and paid for mom's things.
she is divorcing him. she signed a prenup before she married so she will be screwed in the divorce but I think she will still be entitled to alimony. she better be!! she was basically dependent on him. she worked a bit in her old day care job from time to time but nothing much. she will have no money and that ****head knew that she still had to take Keith back home and now she has no gas and no money to buy them food. and I cant help them and that makes me soooo sick with myself. I really cant believe he did that. He'll cut her cell phone next and I just dont know what in the world is going to hapen. I cant sleep or eat or think straight.
I called my social worker and spoke to him. he said that if i start feeling any worse that he would try to make an emergency visit. he comes to see me on the 20th so thats not far away. i see my psych on the 14th and then im having an MRI on the 15th. my doc wants one due to all the migraines ive been having...
im praying(and yes, I know ive always been doubtful but I prayed the whole time for God to help me keep my cool and it worked! plus, im seeing things differently and I see my son so strong in his faith and I want that peaceful feeling too) that nothing else crazy happens and that my mom will make it out of this ok.
*hugs* I'm sorry your family is going through so much right now. I am glad you guys had a good time and that the trip went well for most of the time.
Does you mom have it planned for where she will go stay? Has she thought ahead to maybe have an officer escort to go get her things? Since they were called out to the problem and had to remove him, they would more than likely be willing to escort her to keep her safe and make sure she can get her things. I don't know how much time they'd have available to be there though.
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she can sue him for half his assets because it is him who caused the split, also speaking to an attourney it seems there are some circumstances where a pre-nup is voided, you would hope that extreme violence/aggression/armed rages would count but see if she can get some free legal advice.
mand x
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Does she have a copy of the police report?
I'd keep one in case it happens again so you can follow Mand's advice and have documents to show a history. She does present good points I hadn't thought of and it is better to expect the worst and be surprised by better than to expect better and be unprepared for worst in this case.
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he wasnt actually charged with anything. they just held him until he sobered up and crisis could come and see him. plus, my mom wont listen to ANYONE, and it would only cause more conflict if our family tried to convince her to do anything different than she already has her mind made up to do.
He pulled a loaded gun on you and wasn't charged with anything?
I'm sorry but that sounds like bullshit. Make an appeal or something.
What he did was unforgivable. Yes he was drunk etc but that is NOT an excuse and I hope your mother can see through the "I'm sorry I love you i won't do it again" bullshit because it's always bullshit.
She should divorce him sue him then move so that next time Keith comes you can all be together but in a different house.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break
that its heart may stand in the sun,
so must you know pain.
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I know what you all say is true but she stayed with my father for 18 years through all the beatings and he pulled loaded guns on us so many times. I remember when my brother was a baby and he would pull a gun and she would hand my brother to me and I would take him and my sister to my room and barricade the door.
My mother apparently has battered women's syndrome. It's almost like a way of life for her. Plus she is very committed.
Mom will do as she pleases, she always has even when my father was torturing me. I will never understand it but I can't convince her either....
