Support Thread For Mandimoo...Please Help. Thanks.
Manda and her husband are separating. They have been having problems for some time now and are going to separate. Manda will be left with both her little girls. This will be hard for her and she will need our support for a while.
Please be nice and helpful. She is in a vulnerable state and just needs love right now.
Thank you guys. Please reply with whatever support you can give if only hugs or that you are thinking of her.
Manda, I'm so sorry. I know that does not really help you but you will get through this and carry on being a fantastic mum to Chloe and Ella. Thinking of you *hugs* xx
Manda, please feel free to PM me, add me on Facebook/MSN or what ever. I live in the same area as you too. If there's something I can do, please ask. x
hey guys thanks for the replies, Romp it's not an option because Matt doesn't want it to be. He refuses to talk or try anything. He wont let me try to be better (i acknowledge i was pushing it but i was ill) and he won't let me show him how trust and love can be built up from nothing, he says he wont let himself be hurt anymore, but in doing all this he may well not be able to afford to see his children and that i imagine would hurt worse than anything.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
Such a sad and difficult position Mand....my heart goes out to you, it really does....am always about if you want/need to chat...im not on msn anymore though...much love to you and youre girls xx
Matt admitted to having slept with another woman in the weeks since he told me it was over.
He is away overnight. he had a job interview and a house viewing in tradegar - 40mins away where *she* lives. I dont see how he can afford to live there and see the kids. I find it appaling that he would continue to see this woman whilst we're still living together. I don't want to drag out the separation/divorce but to me you do not keep seeing someone whilst you split from your family, you wait and keep it in your pants until things are sorted and if she is worth what he thinks she is she will understand and wait. He's got more stuff to do there early morning tomorrow but i feel like kicking ihm out regardless of him having nowhere to go - he can sleep at her house or her aunt's where he claims to be tonight.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
I've read the whole thread and I just still don't know quite what to say... You are so much worth more than he is showing you, Mand.
Have you asked him how he will see the girls?
*hugs*
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"He said look inside your heart/ And you'll see stars/ Falling stars/ Look, deep into my eyes/ Don't look down/ Or you'll fall, he said/ Here, the sky goes on forever"
yes he says this woman will be able to lend him a car. he's putting it all on having a job or being with this woman.
i suggested with his track record of jobs and relationships he moves somewhere nearby, get the divorce sorted, if he gets a job to commute and at end of 6month tenancy if he still wants to go there he can, if it's all fallen apart then it's a good job he didn't move there. i have found him loads of nice places nearby to look at but he's not interested.
Mand, South Wales, Full-time working, single mother to 2 scarily independent girls.
I AM A PROUD PLUMERIA SISTER
I know we're chatting on FB right now, but just wanted to say I do wish I could be there to give you a real big hug. You don't deserve all of this, and I mean that. <hugs> xxx